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When Valerie and I talked to you
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said, it takes 10 years to feel
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like a normal person after you leave. Literally
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10 years. And I think it
2:36
can take a long time to even unpack,
2:38
like, what it is that has affected you
2:40
about ballet. And I think some of what
2:43
can affect you is realizing that you didn't
2:45
have a normal childhood and you
2:47
didn't have certain psychosocial development that other
2:49
kids get to have. This
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is Sounds Like a Cult, a show
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about the modern day cults we all
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follow. I'm your host, Amanda Montel, author
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of the books Cultish and the brand
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a live your life? A watch your back?
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Or it gets the fuck out, little cults?
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Sometimes it's cute. Sometimes it's really, really bad.
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Today's cult of the week. Ooh, it
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is a juicy one, a much requested topic
3:55
and one that is endlessly fascinating to me. Today
3:58
we're talking about the cult of the. Ballet.
4:01
Oh, this is one of these
4:03
cults that has sent me down YouTube
4:05
rabbit holes Instagram rabbit holes it's one
4:07
of those cult like spaces that I
4:10
know I will never be a part of because
4:12
I have two frickin left feet line dancing is
4:14
the only type of dance that I Can do
4:16
and because I know it will never accept me.
4:18
I am thus Enraptured
4:20
by it drawn to it. I
4:22
watch YouTube videos of Russian Valorinas
4:25
like breaking their bodies pushing their
4:27
bodies to the extreme these like
4:29
gorgeous tortured women Because I'm
4:32
terrified of ballet and I also
4:34
admire it. I'm mesmerized by it
4:37
Oh, what a good topic for sounds
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like a cult. I'm excited to get
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into the episode But before we do
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I did want to mention real quick
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that not only is my new book
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a podcast for thought spirals exploring the
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I interviewed the narcissism scholar. Dr.
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Romani I'm gonna link both my
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book and the new podcast in
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the show notes here But back
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to this episode the cult
5:39
of ballet stick around
5:41
because we have such a wonderful
5:44
Guest host joining us in a bit. Her name
5:46
is Erica Lance She is
5:48
an award-winning audio producer and reporter who
5:51
also grew up a pretty serious ballet
5:53
dancer and made a whole podcast About
5:56
the sort of cult like
5:58
atmosphere of ballet called The
6:00
Turning, which you should definitely check out.
6:03
But before we get into it with
6:05
Erika and all of her personal experiences
6:07
and her expert analysis, I wanted to
6:09
give a little bit of history and
6:11
background because this is truly one of
6:14
those cults that seems like, eh, how
6:16
bad could it be on the surface
6:18
until you peek behind the veil, behind
6:20
the curtain, behind the proscenium stage?
6:26
Okay, let's go way back in time
6:28
here. According to a piece published by
6:30
the Pittsburgh Ballet Theater titled A Brief
6:32
History of Ballet, ballet emerged at the
6:35
height of the Italian Renaissance in the
6:37
15th century. It was fancy
6:39
from the beginning. It was
6:41
Italiano. Initially, ballet was just
6:44
taught to nobility by dance masters,
6:46
and it was intended to be
6:48
performed at formal events like weddings.
6:51
Catherine de' Medici, wife of King
6:53
Henry II and patron of the
6:55
arts, funded ballet in the French
6:58
court, Ballet Mami, thank you, gracie.
7:00
About a century later, King Louis
7:02
IV, who was a dancer himself,
7:05
would popularize the art form even
7:07
further. By the 19th century, ballet
7:09
was ascending to previously unseen levels
7:12
of popularity and, at the same
7:14
time, exclusivity, partially due to the creation
7:16
of narrative ballet. So most of the
7:18
ballets that those of us outside the
7:20
cult are somewhat familiar with, including Swan
7:23
Lake and the Nutcracker, it was all
7:25
the rage in those 1800s. It was
7:28
the love is blind of the moment.
7:30
This is also around the time when
7:32
point was heavily implemented, you know, when
7:35
the poor dancers have to stand up
7:37
on their tippy toes on a block
7:39
of fucking wood.
7:41
So painful. But it really wasn't
7:43
until the early 20th
7:45
century when the cultish aspects of
7:48
ballet that I think popped to
7:50
mind for most of us, the
7:52
unbelievable dedication, the elitism, the body
7:55
standards really came to the fore,
7:57
and that was thanks to the
8:00
the arguable cult leader of this whole
8:02
frickin' shebang, George Balanchine. He was now
8:04
dead, he died in the 80s, so
8:06
we can talk shit about him and
8:09
he won't sue us. I'm kidding, no
8:11
I'm not. So George Balanchine, major
8:13
cult figure in the ballet world, the
8:16
ballet that we all know or at
8:18
least are somewhat familiar with today would
8:20
not exist without this motherfucker. He was
8:23
a Russian dancer and choreographer who moved
8:25
to New York and founded the infamous,
8:27
prestigious School of American Ballet in 1934,
8:30
the school train dancers for the New
8:32
York City Ballet. This is the elite
8:34
of the elite, the creme de la
8:36
creme. The New York City Ballet
8:38
was also founded by George Balanchine a little bit later
8:40
in 1948. It
8:43
is widely known that George Balanchine
8:45
had the perfect storm of cult leader
8:47
traits. The dude had this filter
8:50
list to him. He spoke his mind
8:52
and was proud of it. He was
8:54
arrogant, he was dominating. He was talented,
8:56
legitimately, so that's a plot twist for
8:59
a cult leader. And
9:01
he was the pioneer of a
9:03
new style of ballet called
9:06
the Neo-Classical style. So
9:08
many former School of American
9:11
Ballet dancers have come forward
9:13
and described George Balanchine as
9:15
a cult leader separately. A
9:17
dancer named Alexandra Waterbury said
9:19
in an interview with The
9:21
Guardian, literally titled, It's like
9:23
a cult, that George Balanchine
9:25
was like a god. She
9:27
mentioned how sexual misconduct permeated
9:29
the world of ballet. George
9:31
Balanchine is credited with having
9:33
invented the concept of ballet
9:35
muses. And he was known
9:37
for having inappropriate and coercive
9:39
relationships with incredibly young dancers
9:42
who idol-worshipped him. Here's
9:44
a creepy fun fact. Several
9:46
of these sources from The
9:48
Guardian piece noted that Balanchine
9:50
would assign different perfume scents
9:52
to his favorite dancers so
9:54
he could track their whereabouts
9:56
in any given theater. Better
9:59
smell! This
10:01
woman named Madison Mainwaring, who's a
10:03
scholar of 19th century literature and
10:05
cultural history, recently published a write-up
10:07
in The New Republic about a
10:09
former School of American ballet dancer
10:11
named Alice Robb who wrote a
10:13
memoir called Don't Sink Dear on
10:15
Loving and Leaving Ballet. This write-up
10:17
was called The Struggle to Save
10:19
Ballet from Itself. And she wrote
10:21
about how, even though Robb wasn't
10:23
trained by Balanchine himself but rather
10:26
his equally sketchy successor Peter Martin,
10:28
she could feel his godlike presence
10:30
not only in the way that
10:32
she danced but in the way
10:34
that she lived her life. Balanchinian
10:36
teachings were so entrenched. Alice Robb
10:39
said that this adherence to his
10:41
methods led her to waste her
10:43
younger years and I quote, in
10:45
thrall to a deceased cult leader.
10:48
That is how powerful this man was. His
10:50
cultural critic, Mainwaring, noted in
10:52
the piece that most Balanchine
10:54
ballerinas wind up post-retirement as
10:56
and I quote, vessels of
10:58
his technique living to teach
11:00
his methods. Almost like those
11:03
remaining Nexium followers dancing outside
11:05
the prison cell of Keith
11:07
Ranieri. Alice
11:10
Robb wrote an article herself for Vogue titled,
11:12
My Whole Life Was Ballet, What Did It
11:14
Mean to Give It Up? And in it
11:16
she said, this will always be his institution
11:19
even if he's been dead for 20 years.
11:22
This motherfucker was so powerful that he
11:24
continues to haunt the ballet world. So
11:27
I'm fucking foaming at the mouth for
11:29
you to hear my conversation with Erika.
11:32
But first let's move through a little
11:34
analyzing, a little unpacking of some of
11:36
the cultiest qualities of the ballet world.
11:39
I asked our Sounds Like a Cult
11:42
listeners on Instagram what culty stereotypes of
11:44
ballet dancers first come to mind for
11:46
them. And I swear to
11:48
God like 90% of the responses had
11:50
to do with eating disorders. And this
11:53
is a stereotype for a reason. And
11:56
it's again because of George Balanchine.
11:59
So many dancers. including Alice Robb, have
12:01
claimed that the dude was not
12:03
shy about criticizing his dancers' bodies,
12:05
going so far as to prod
12:07
their bodies and tell them that
12:09
in order for him to be
12:11
happy, he must see the bones.
12:13
And naturally, this resulted in these
12:15
super unhealthy, extreme caloric restriction diets
12:17
for many ballerinas, which became a
12:19
whole part of the culture. There
12:21
was a 1987 book called The
12:23
Dancer's Body Book, which recommended a
12:25
500-calorie diet for ballet
12:27
dancers. How you're
12:29
expected to frickin' triple pirouette on
12:32
that little I will never understand. According
12:34
to an eating disorder specialist named Michelle
12:36
Warren, the rate of eating disorders for
12:38
dancers is 20 times
12:41
higher than the general
12:43
population. And some have
12:45
explicitly noted that the
12:47
attention that these ballerina
12:49
starvation diets attracted served
12:51
as inspiration for
12:54
later super controlling cults
12:56
like Nexium, whose leader
12:58
Keith Ranieri also put
13:00
his young women followers on
13:02
similar starvation diets. Controlling female
13:05
members' food intake is a
13:07
not totally uncommon cult tactic,
13:09
and some have claimed that
13:12
the ballet world is partially
13:15
responsible for that. But what
13:17
makes the ballet world complicated
13:19
is, of course, it's not
13:21
just torture. It is
13:23
a beautiful art form. It provides
13:26
people with such an incredible sense
13:28
of meaning. For many dancers, the
13:31
suffering at the hands of institutions
13:33
like the School of American Ballet
13:35
was simply the price they were
13:37
willing to pay for getting to
13:40
lose themselves in this art form
13:42
at such a transcendent high level.
13:44
Alice Robb wrote, even as the
13:46
trappings of ballet, the competition, the
13:48
impossible physical standards, the punishing hours
13:51
can be a source of profound
13:53
anxiety and distress. Ballet itself, the
13:55
movement, the music, the choreography, is
13:57
simultaneously a salve for these emotions.
14:00
But the prices that some of
14:02
these schools require you to pay
14:05
are so expensive metaphorically, and
14:07
also literally, it begs the question, like, is
14:10
it really worth it? One
14:12
of the cultiest things pointed out
14:14
by that Guardian piece I mentioned
14:16
earlier is that ballet permeates the
14:18
identity of its dancers so hardcore
14:20
that even after they leave the
14:22
quote unquote cult, they've never really
14:25
been able to cultivate a sense
14:27
of self, a sense of boundaries,
14:29
a sense of care for their own
14:31
bodies and minds. This piece pointed out
14:33
that dancers are rarely encouraged to seek
14:35
education outside of these studios. You're
14:38
expected to sacrifice everything for the
14:40
honor of becoming an elite ballet
14:42
dancer. Obviously, ballet schedules are ridiculously
14:44
demanding, even if you're not at
14:46
the highest levels. I mean,
14:48
I took ballet as a kid up until the
14:50
eighth grade, and there was this pride in torturing
14:52
yourself or pushing yourself to the brink, dancing hours
14:55
and hours and hours every week, even if you
14:57
were like me and you weren't even good. Even
15:00
more than in the cult of feeder
15:02
kids, I'd say in ballet, there is
15:04
this incredibly cult like standard that tells
15:06
you that the only way to have
15:09
a shot at making it is to
15:11
devote your life completely to it. So
15:14
before we get into it with Erica,
15:16
I think we do need to linger
15:18
a little bit more on this subject
15:20
of sexual abuse in ballet because it
15:23
is such a profound part of what
15:25
makes this industry culty. That dancer Alexander
15:27
Waterbury spoke to the Guardian about a
15:29
lawsuit that she filed against both the
15:31
New York City Ballet and the dancer
15:34
Chase Finley, by whom Waterbury was allegedly
15:36
sexually assaulted. She explained that she sued
15:38
the New York City Ballet because she
15:40
believes they perpetuate a culture that fosters
15:43
assaults like hers in the name
15:45
of, and I quote, protecting an
15:47
image and prolonging the lineage of
15:49
someone like George Balanchine. This piece
15:51
talked about how so many ballet
15:53
greats like Anthony Tudor and Jerome
15:55
Robbins were known for unsavory and
15:57
sometimes violent conduct towards women. gender
16:00
dynamics of this whole thing literally mirror
16:02
the gender dynamics of a group like
16:04
the Manson Family. Indeed, although ballet is
16:07
dominated by women in terms of like
16:09
number of dancers, the power is held
16:11
mostly by men. They choreographed 80% of
16:13
the work performed by America's 50 largest
16:16
companies from 2018 to 2020. That's
16:19
a fucking wild stat. I
16:21
struggle to think of another
16:24
industry, maybe modeling, but not
16:26
even, that has like such
16:28
fucked up dynamics where those
16:30
who are worshipped and also profiting
16:32
are men, but almost everyone who's
16:34
worshiping them and creating those profits
16:36
are women. This is the last
16:39
thing I'll say here. In
16:41
a truly chilling account of her experiences
16:43
with assault in the ballet industry, actor
16:46
and former dancer Suvi Honkinen wrote in
16:48
a ballet blog titled Ballet with Isabella
16:50
about a director that she declines to
16:53
name saying, and I quote, that she
16:55
lived in the understanding that this was
16:57
all because he wanted to help me,
17:00
but it wasn't long until I got the
17:02
feeling that I owed him something. I just
17:04
didn't know what. However, my blind trust and
17:06
belief that it was all for my own
17:09
good made me compliant and silent. And
17:11
I endured psychologically abusive behavior for
17:13
years before questioning any of it,
17:15
telling myself maybe I imagined it
17:17
all. Maybe nothing happened. Maybe I
17:19
was just too inexperienced and dramatic.
17:22
Maybe I shouldn't trust myself. This
17:24
is a woman who's talking about ballet.
17:27
It sounds like she's talking about a
17:29
cult. Now we try not to be
17:31
too sensationalist on Sounds Like a Cult,
17:33
believe it or not. So I do
17:35
want to give some space to acknowledge
17:37
the positives and the beauty that exist
17:40
within ballet. They are there,
17:42
no doubt about it. So please
17:44
prepare for a nuanced, balanced conversation
17:46
with my very special guest host
17:48
today. Please welcome former
17:50
dancer and audio extraordinaire, Erica Linn. And
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Hi Erica. This has been kind of a long
20:22
time coming, I feel. Yes.
20:25
Thank you so much for your patience, by the
20:27
way. No, truly. Thank you. Could
20:30
you please introduce yourself and your work
20:32
to our listeners and how you're connected
20:34
to the cult of ballet? My name
20:36
is Erica and I host another podcast
20:38
called The Turning and season two is
20:40
called The Turning Room with Mirrors and
20:42
it's all about ballet. My personal background
20:44
is I grew up studying ballet, got
20:46
really into it, took it very seriously.
20:48
It was kind of the focus of
20:50
my life until my mid teens when
20:53
I ended up quitting and then I
20:55
didn't really think about it for almost
20:57
20 years and then I made this
20:59
podcast where I reentered that world. Oh
21:01
man. I think about ballet all
21:03
the time for someone who did
21:05
ballet for five minutes when I was a
21:07
little kid, quickly proved myself terrible at it
21:09
and then remained obsessed with it ever since.
21:12
It's like the one that got away, like I couldn't, I'm
21:15
like flat footed and was obsessed
21:17
with ballerinas. One of my
21:19
top YouTube searches whenever I like click
21:21
in to waste three hours watching random
21:24
shit online is ballet and ballerinas. I
21:26
just like love to watch those little
21:28
ladies torture themselves. There's
21:31
something that ballet just draws people in that
21:33
way. It is something that like when you're
21:35
not in it, you can have this fascination
21:37
with it and it's interesting how you put
21:39
that like watching these ladies torture themselves because
21:41
I think weirdly there's this
21:43
morbid fascination that people have with
21:45
the pain that is part of
21:47
ballet too. Literally. Like when
21:50
I watch ballerina vlogs or documentaries,
21:52
who makes those little fake documentaries
21:54
on YouTube and just uploads them?
21:57
I don't know. But whenever I'm
21:59
like. on like ballet tube fully,
22:01
my body feels like it's watching true crime.
22:03
Yes, because you're like, how are their bodies
22:06
doing that? What what is happening? And when
22:08
I was interviewing people for this project, and
22:10
these are people in the in the industry
22:12
ballet compared ballerinas to aliens in terms of
22:14
how they're perceived by the rest of us,
22:17
because they're able to do things with their
22:19
bodies that can feel incomprehensible if you can't
22:21
do them yourself. And all you can think
22:23
is mad. Doesn't that hurt? Yeah,
22:26
and their makeup is aliengelic
22:28
and shiny. Okay, so to
22:30
kick us off, when I say
22:32
the cult of ballet thinking about
22:35
it through that lens, what qualities
22:37
instantly pop to mind for you?
22:39
Well, there is definitely ingrained in
22:41
ballet culture, a sense of
22:43
reverence for authority, and a singular
22:45
person of authority, usually whoever is
22:48
in front of the room, and
22:50
that can continue to go up
22:52
this chain of authority up to
22:54
the big directors, the big choreographers
22:56
in the field. When
22:58
I think of the cult of ballet, because
23:00
of this podcast that I made about
23:02
ballet, I think right away of George
23:04
Balanchine, because we ended up focusing on
23:06
him as this unusually large figure in
23:09
ballet who cast the shadow on the
23:11
art form to this day, even though
23:13
he's no longer alive. And he constantly
23:16
is compared to a god in ballet,
23:18
he's like the Shakespeare of ballet. And
23:21
if you know a choreographer's name, and
23:23
you're not in ballet, it's probably George
23:25
Balanchine. The father, the son, the holy
23:27
Balanchine. Yes, exactly.
23:30
You get it. I watched Center Stage.
23:33
Actually, well, I mean, I don't know
23:35
what was going on in the 90s,
23:37
but like, that whole slew of movies
23:39
from Center Stage to Save the Last
23:41
Dance, all the way to I feel
23:43
like Step Up really birthed a generation
23:45
of people who romanticized, okay, I guess
23:47
Step Up isn't about ballet, but you
23:49
know what I'm saying, like, the sort
23:51
of like rebel ballerina, who didn't want
23:53
to be that girl. Absolutely. And I
23:55
remember watching those movies at like, slumber
23:57
parties with my fellow ballet school students.
24:00
students and just watching
24:02
them over and over again. Totally
24:04
to like re-indoctimate yourself. Okay, so
24:06
George Valenshin is God. So tell
24:09
me more about that power hierarchy.
24:11
Well, he really had inordinate power
24:13
over his dancers and
24:16
it's connected to this belief in this like
24:18
higher power and higher purpose where
24:21
dance and ballet takes on this religiosity
24:23
that's very extreme. And I totally get
24:25
it because when you are dancing you
24:27
feel like you're connecting to something higher
24:29
and it's an amazing feeling. There are
24:31
these high highs and then come these
24:33
low lows. And he
24:35
really wanted his dancers to
24:37
commit fully in body and
24:39
spirit. He didn't want his dancers
24:42
to be dating. He didn't want his dancers to have
24:44
children. Oh my God, it's
24:46
like monk-like almost. Absolutely,
24:48
one of the dancers, actually
24:50
multiple people I interviewed who were ballet dancers compared
24:52
it to being a nun, especially
24:54
from that era. And like if you
24:56
were dating someone, you tried to hide
24:59
it from him and he wanted to
25:01
control how their bodies looked and would
25:03
comment on their bodies very explicitly telling
25:05
them they need to lose weight, which
25:07
leads to controlling kind of what they're
25:09
eating, how they're spending their time. And
25:11
there is this ideal of showing fervor
25:14
to prove how much you love ballet.
25:16
One person I interviewed was like, it's not just that you wanna
25:18
do these impossibly difficult combinations
25:21
because he was known for that, like asking
25:23
dancers to do something that should be impossible
25:25
and kind of testing them to see if
25:27
they'll go for it, even though it's impossible.
25:29
And it's like, not only do you wanna
25:32
show that you're willing to do it, but
25:34
you wanna show that you have this fervor
25:36
around doing it for him. And that would
25:38
be like a way to prove your devotion.
25:40
Oh my God, so there's so much at
25:43
play here. There's like the very real physiological
25:45
thing of you're pushing your body to its
25:47
breaking point. You're experiencing pain, but you're also
25:49
experiencing the incredible endorphins and dopamine
25:51
release from performing and from
25:54
like nailing a routine. But
25:56
then also there's the sort
25:58
of like. psychosocial aspect
26:00
made even more intense by this godlike
26:02
figure. So was George Balanchine, in your
26:05
opinion, like one of the first figures
26:07
to make ballet like a full cult
26:09
or did he just like bring it
26:11
to the next level? I
26:14
don't think he's the first person by any means. I think
26:16
he brought it to another level and he also brought it
26:18
to another level in this country. And also
26:20
he made it a cultural phenomenon here in the United
26:22
States. I mean, he made it so that ballet was
26:24
something you'd regularly see on TV. It was a phenomenon
26:27
then way that it isn't today. And
26:29
it was like a center of the New York art
26:31
scene. I mean, ballet still is,
26:33
but like to another level back then. What era
26:35
are we talking about, by the way, just for
26:37
context? 50s, 60s, 70s. Oh,
26:40
50s, 60s, 70s by no coincidence,
26:43
a peak cult era. There you
26:45
go. Some people are on like
26:47
a compound dancing in
26:49
a circle doing ayahuasca and
26:51
some people are on point.
26:54
Absolutely. I mean, he grew
26:56
up in Russia where he went to
26:58
a boarding school that was completely devoted
27:00
to ballet. And like all of the
27:02
other students were learning ballet and they
27:04
had a very militaristic schedule waking up
27:06
at a certain time. And that was
27:08
your entire life and was living in
27:10
the theater and doing this. And he
27:12
brought that cultural expectation to the United
27:14
States and added his own twist. Right.
27:18
Okay. So obviously like we're talking
27:20
about the power structure. We're talking
27:22
about the hierarchy that George Balanchine
27:24
created and exacerbated. But
27:26
can you further break down the industry
27:29
in terms of who holds power?
27:31
Like I was a theater kid, which
27:33
is like ballet adjacent, but theater kids
27:35
are so sloppy and kids do ballet
27:37
or so like they have their shit
27:39
tight. But I remember going
27:42
to like a theater program at Lincoln Center
27:44
one summer and we shared dorms with the
27:46
SAB kids. Oh wow. I was in the
27:48
school of American ballet for those who don't
27:50
know, but like I was totally in awe
27:52
of them. I was like, what happens when
27:54
my dog sees a horse? Like I would
27:56
just like bow down to them. Like I
27:58
was so in awe of them. them. So
28:00
I knew that like the School of
28:02
American Ballet was a big deal. And
28:05
I also went to performing arts school.
28:07
So like, I heard of the Joffrey
28:09
and whatever. But are there certain like
28:11
ballet schools, ballet companies that are like
28:14
cults within cults? And who are the
28:16
leaders throughout the industry? Mm hmm. So
28:19
School of American Ballet is the
28:21
classic example. And yes, going away
28:24
for the summer and getting into
28:26
this impossibly difficult and selective program
28:28
to move into dorms. And suddenly,
28:30
your whole life is ballet and you're a
28:32
teenager or younger, your kid. And what
28:36
then often happens is at the end of
28:38
the summer, you might get an offer to
28:40
stay on. And so then you move to
28:43
New York as a kid and leave your
28:45
family behind. And suddenly, your whole world is
28:47
ballet. And I think there's that cult like
28:49
aspect that's built into the industry where you
28:52
suddenly are giving up everything else to
28:54
become a ballerina. And it's
28:56
your whole world. So it's a lot harder to
28:58
leave, you know, if all of your friends you
29:00
leave your family behind, and it's the only cultural
29:02
input that you have. And it creates this pipeline
29:05
where certain notions of authority are very normalized, you
29:07
don't know anything else. And when you get your
29:09
first job in the industry, you
29:11
have no context for what is an okay
29:13
boundary to cross and what's not all you
29:15
know is you don't speak up in class,
29:17
you're supposed to remain quiet, listen to corrections,
29:19
do as you're told, and you learn to
29:21
smile through the pain. That's something
29:24
that's really pounded in. Oh my
29:26
god, it's like, in what other
29:28
context is it not only okay,
29:30
but fully celebrated to have a
29:32
bunch of children going through intense
29:34
physical torture, bowing to like a
29:37
Russian dictator separate from their parents.
29:39
And we're like, not only is
29:41
this fine, we love this, like
29:43
we stand this these kids are
29:45
special. I mean, it is so
29:47
unbelievably cold like the parallels truly
29:50
bananas because in cults, often Mistreatment
29:52
is passed off as special treatment
29:55
because you're a part of this
29:57
exclusive larger than life higher. Embrace
30:00
and group And that's like
30:02
exactly. What you're describing is it's
30:04
about it. Except this. Yes, one
30:07
person I interviewed for the podcast
30:09
research with Howard said it's mythologizing
30:11
trauma for the. Arts Who
30:13
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30:17
bit of this and other sort
30:20
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30:22
train children from very very young
30:24
like intense classical pianist athletes to
30:27
like gymnasts or swimmers. but there's
30:29
something even more elite and like
30:31
Uzi and procedures and absolutely religious
30:34
about the ballet were own. It's
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got like an. Extra Spicy.
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33:09
your background? Can you talk about like how
33:12
you recruited into the Colts as ballet so
33:14
to speak and what your journey was in
33:16
the coal and getting out of it? Well,
33:18
I fell in love with dance basically before
33:21
I could walk practically and I used to
33:23
be dancing in my high chair. There's a
33:25
something so compelling about feeling like your body
33:27
is. Embodying. Music and I loved
33:30
it as a kid. And then of course my parents
33:32
took me to the Nutcracker when I was like a
33:34
toddler and I think that is the entered at all.
33:36
I have started with that Diana not drag or. It
33:40
is like a dreamscape but I came out of
33:42
that wanting to dance and I was is begging
33:44
begging begging begging to go to class. And finally
33:46
I did start when I was three and that's
33:48
the story of are so many people and you
33:50
get sucked in and you know actually now I
33:52
think of it. The Nutcracker helps keep you into
33:55
because one thing that colts do is like very
33:57
different levels you can get you and. you continue to
33:59
wanna get to the next level and it's like, oh,
34:01
if I just get to that next level, right? And
34:03
in ballet, there are levels. And then every year you're
34:05
in the nutcracker as a kid, starting from maybe age
34:07
eight. And you see all of the older
34:10
kids and all these parts and roles that you could
34:12
dance in future years of the nutcracker. And so, oh,
34:14
if I stay next year, maybe I'll get to dance
34:16
the Spanish dance, or maybe I'll get to be a
34:18
snowflake. And you can't help but want to do it.
34:21
Bullshit, because like, you're teaching
34:23
these children to aspire to
34:25
like the highest level
34:27
that they can achieve in life is
34:29
like dressing up as a mouse. But
34:33
the world is so insular that
34:35
like that becomes your highest life
34:37
goal. Okay, so you were like,
34:39
great nutcracker, I can't wait. And
34:41
then yes, how did your participation
34:43
in the call progress? Did you
34:45
notice red flags at any point?
34:47
I think I noticed red flags
34:49
when I just
34:51
was really sad a lot of the
34:53
time. And I
34:57
mean, I had to quit a lot of things
34:59
that I was doing to be dancing and I
35:01
didn't really want to leave them. And it just
35:03
felt I've had this like existential turmoil of why
35:05
am I giving up everything? Like I don't even
35:07
know if I want to be a professional dancer.
35:09
But this is the thing about ballet is you
35:11
have to commit at such a young age that
35:13
it's like, well, if you want any chance of
35:15
doing it, this is what we're told. People are
35:17
pushing back on this now. But you're told that
35:19
like, well, you have to go in all in
35:21
now because you can't like do it later. So
35:24
it's now or never. So suddenly you're fully committed.
35:26
But I think I was just torn because
35:28
I was like, I love a lot of things
35:30
and why is this taking over my life and
35:32
I was getting more and more secluded. I actually
35:34
started homeschooling for a while so that I could
35:36
focus more in ballet and so like my world
35:39
started shrinking. Yeah. And then I think my main
35:41
source of unhappiness was I mean, I loved dancing,
35:43
like I never disliked dancing. So that was a
35:45
source of joy for me. And not sure if
35:47
you're thinking about it. I loved it. But my
35:50
main source of unhappiness was my body image and
35:52
just hating my body. And I didn't even have
35:54
a very extreme example of that. But like it
35:56
fully took over my life. And all I can
35:59
think about that I didn't like
36:01
my body and that it needed a change,
36:03
but I still wasn't ready to leave. And
36:05
the only way I got out was I
36:07
had these very persistent recurring injuries that I'd
36:09
been seeing physical therapists for for years. And
36:12
one time the physical therapist said to me, we're
36:14
not seeing the improvement we need. I think you
36:17
should take the summer off of dance, like a
36:19
couple months off of dance. Maybe she said six
36:21
weeks. And at the time it felt
36:23
like, no, this is not true, but in my head
36:25
it felt like a career ender or just
36:28
a really big uphill climb because even
36:30
missing a day of ballet, I felt like I
36:32
got out of shape. Yeah. But the moment that
36:34
she said that I had to take that time
36:37
off, I instantly was like, oh, I'm never going
36:39
back. And I felt very happy
36:41
and relieved that the decision had been
36:43
made for me. That's what's so crazy
36:45
is that like sometimes you just need
36:47
someone on the outside to step in
36:49
and give you permission to leave. That
36:52
is why cults don't want you talking
36:54
to people on the outside. Even doctors,
36:56
especially doctors. Think about classic cults, you
36:58
know, like my dad grew up in a
37:01
cult where they didn't want you to go to the hospital. If
37:03
you needed testing done, it had to be
37:05
done like in the internal cult lab because
37:08
they didn't want someone like planting those things
37:10
in your mind. Like maybe this is not
37:12
healthy for you. I mean, what was that
37:14
like in terms of just the physical pain
37:17
and injury that you would endure? How were
37:19
you sort of coerced to push past that
37:21
in the cult of ballet? Well, I think you
37:23
just have to learn to have a high tolerance
37:25
to pain because a lot of the
37:27
things that you're doing are just like really difficult. Part
37:29
of it is in any sport when you're working out
37:32
and just doing something difficult, it hurts.
37:35
And so it can be hard to differentiate
37:37
between like, this is good pain and this
37:39
is actually dangerous pain. But once you start
37:41
dancing in pointe shoes, I mean, pointe shoes
37:43
are painful and your feet are
37:45
bleeding and they have blisters and why haven't they
37:47
invented a better pointe shoe? Are they just like
37:50
fucking with you all? Like, I know they could
37:52
invent, it's 2024. That's
37:54
a whole other rabbit hole of yes, we need
37:56
to have better pointe shoes. And Like, there's a
37:58
weird resistance to. Engine points you
38:00
that all there's this clinging to tradition.
38:03
Okay cause you know there's a lotta
38:05
shit and religion. Words like make sense
38:07
anymore like can we plan to flew
38:10
past it? build upon it that way
38:12
we could have more comfortable please use
38:14
probably Still not like com Scribble Boat
38:17
more comfortable and much safer point season
38:19
and. There. Are many factors who
38:21
are working on it but the
38:23
resistance is while to me because
38:25
pain as a barrier to entry
38:27
ray and then the longer you
38:29
experience this this I know because
38:31
of the book that I just
38:33
finished writing about cognitive biases. the
38:36
more you voluntarily endure pain the
38:38
more willing you are to justify
38:40
it. So like if you are
38:42
same building a cabinet and you
38:44
accidently get a splinter while building
38:46
the cabinets that's not gonna make
38:48
you appreciate the final product. Of the
38:50
cabinet anymore but if you are building the
38:52
cabinet. And. You volunteer to get
38:54
a splinter. When Mack Habit is done,
38:56
it's You're going to be like Zach
38:58
Habit is more beautiful because of the
39:01
pain that you volunteered to enter the
39:03
like. That is a bias that colts
39:05
explain that This call in particular is
39:07
exploiting. Hardcore is like they want you
39:09
to endure as much pain for as
39:11
long as possible. Because of that is
39:14
going to encourage you to justify all
39:16
those years and all that pain he
39:18
spends mind blown. Wow, that's incredible. And
39:20
hand it makes a lot of sense
39:22
because you. Are consistently making choices to
39:24
sacrifice for your art farm which again
39:27
is a beautiful art form for which
39:29
I love and which dancers love and
39:31
and mean. That's what's hard about it,
39:34
but it's It's kind of like this
39:36
trauma bonds that you develop a field
39:38
like an abusive relationship at times. Yeah.
39:41
Oh my gosh. Tell me more about the
39:43
trauma bond aspect is like you know of
39:45
course Sally as a beautiful art form, no
39:48
one would endure the rest of the bullshit
39:50
if it weren't like. that's the thing about
39:52
close as like there's gotta be something got
39:54
involved or else no one would fucking put
39:56
up with it. So how did the bond
39:58
that you developed with your fellow? the answers
40:00
keep you in Wyoming see it as like
40:02
the trauma bond with the art form were
40:04
in relation to the art form that you
40:06
don't wanna leave can use of tolerate those
40:09
other business. The
40:11
Us. I mean I guess that if
40:13
you're in it for longer, be going
40:15
to have more of the interpersonal violence
40:17
in that realm. And that's where you
40:20
end up with abuse of authority figures.
40:22
And that's where this extremely hierarchical groups
40:24
with an extreme difference in power between
40:26
this you who by the way are
40:29
usually men and. The many vast
40:31
majority of whom are women leads
40:33
to abusive situations. Whoa.
40:36
Yeah. Can you talk about
40:38
like some of the power abuse
40:40
that goes on in like super
40:42
competitive valley environments like what are we
40:44
talking Meyer Low in the cases
40:46
George Balanchine for example to go
40:48
back to him as as an
40:50
example he didn't want his dancers said
40:52
be dating but he dated many.
40:54
Many of his answers he slept
40:56
to them, had romantic relationships with them
40:59
and he married many of them
41:01
and he was their boss and
41:03
he was often decades and decades
41:05
older than them. And I
41:07
talked to one dancer who was trying
41:09
to come back to the company after
41:11
being away, was trying to get her
41:13
job back and in that office when
41:15
they are her job prospects at the
41:17
company he leaned over and sister. And
41:19
the thing about ballets at such a
41:22
romantic brasil in it is an art
41:24
form that it's very easy to not
41:26
feel like it's a normal workplace and
41:28
like you're just a bunch of artists
41:30
creating something together. It's a calling answer
41:32
though case. And but this is also
41:34
a man who has complete power. Over
41:36
whether you're going to be allowed to
41:38
pursue that collie any percent your romantically.
41:41
There have been a number of allegations
41:43
against people who are in powerful positions
41:45
and the ballet world's taking advantage of
41:48
that. Another. Thing that I
41:50
can't help but notice is called
41:52
to you. maybe not even in
41:54
a bad ways. This enough neutral
41:56
way of out valet is like
41:58
the sheer ritual that take. Place
42:00
like breaking in your point shoes and
42:02
placing them up a certain way. Like
42:05
can you recall any rituals that made
42:07
you feel special and really like furthered
42:09
that trauma bond with the art form?
42:11
Well I think ritual is definitely built
42:14
into ballet. I mean in when you're
42:16
in a ballet company you have company
42:18
class every morning and again I don't
42:21
see this is like a negative thing
42:23
necessarily that in that it can be
42:25
very centering for dancers like every night
42:28
you're performing. and you know maybe. Things
42:30
go badly. Maybe things go well. that's no
42:32
matter how low or how high you are
42:34
in the company are gonna show up in
42:36
the morning for company class Recenter and you're
42:38
gonna start with is very basic exercises that
42:40
you've been doing since you were eight years
42:42
old or younger than he can be reminding
42:44
you like you're just one of many hear
42:47
it can be helpful to like go back
42:49
to the basics can be really spiritual for
42:51
people. they could create a sense of the
42:53
company said it also like reaffirms your devotion
42:55
to the art form and your commitment to
42:57
add that like you will not miss a
42:59
day like. You're gonna go And by the
43:01
way usually and companies that classes optional and
43:04
so what you're saying about choice and how
43:06
you choose to go but also like it's
43:08
a choice but it's of expectation him the
43:10
illusion of choice right? But it in terms
43:13
of points you like you mentioned, Everly breaks
43:15
in their point is their own way and
43:17
that's something that kids get very had transpired
43:20
in adults you that like everyone breaks in
43:22
their twenties and their own way so that
43:24
it can mold to their foot in the
43:26
way that they need and that in it
43:29
and in of itself. Isn't like oh I
43:31
think a weird ritual but what it does you
43:33
the takes a lot of time and this is
43:35
something that called see was like they take up
43:37
all of your time and ballet it like you
43:39
have company class. I'd say it's han am you're
43:42
hurting all day than in the evening you have
43:44
a performance. you get home very late at night
43:46
and by the way some time after that you
43:48
have to have time to so and break in
43:50
a new pair plane choose like every day you're
43:52
just constantly constantly selling. As a professional ballerina you're
43:55
a year old pointe shoes. So is yet another
43:57
way in which he just don't have time for
43:59
anything else. Right. So how do
44:01
you get the fuck out of
44:03
ballet? How do you exit gracefully?
44:06
Is that possible? Like, because what
44:08
I'm hearing is like, you either
44:10
get a horrible injury to your
44:13
mind or your body or both, that
44:15
disqualifies you. Or you somehow
44:17
are in the like, point zero zero zero
44:20
zero one percent who make it all the
44:22
way. And all the way is
44:24
what 35? Then what are you supposed to do?
44:26
Like, what do you do? Oh, it's
44:29
so hard because in a way,
44:31
everyone is forced to leave at some point.
44:33
That's the weird thing about this group.
44:40
So you have like, some people become
44:42
ballet teachers, some will become choreographers or
44:44
involved in the industry in other ways, and
44:46
other people just leave it entirely. And
44:49
either way you go, it's a huge shift
44:51
to go from performing every day to being
44:54
a teacher or being a choreographer or
44:56
being a doctor or an accountant or
44:58
something completely different. Is there like immense
45:01
depression? Like, do people how are people
45:03
okay? Like, are there resources to help
45:05
ballet dancers recover after they leave? Certainly
45:07
not enough resources. It's really hard when
45:10
Valerie and I talked to said it
45:12
takes 10 years to feel like a
45:14
normal person after you leave, literally
45:16
10 years. And I think it
45:18
can take a long time to even unpack like
45:20
what it is that has affected
45:22
you about ballet. And I think some of
45:24
what can affect you is realizing that you
45:27
didn't have a normal childhood. And you
45:29
didn't have certain psychosocial development that
45:31
other kids get to have. Totally
45:33
the psychosocial development. I mean, like
45:35
being so far from your family,
45:38
your friends you've known since you
45:40
were a baby, like that's objectively
45:42
not good for you. But we
45:44
excuse it, we as audience members
45:46
too, like we uplift it because
45:48
we want ballet dancers or we,
45:51
the rich people who can go
45:53
to the ballet. Yeah, and we want
45:56
this story of like the obsessed child
45:58
who like goes all in. In and
46:00
the weird thing about ballet is to things
46:02
that seem to be opposite happened at the
46:04
same time. One is that you're expected to
46:06
become adult at a very young age and
46:09
you're treated like an adult artist at a
46:11
very young age which is problematic. and the
46:13
other thing that happened as even once you're
46:15
an adult, you're treated like a child. So
46:17
when you're in the company, you're kind of
46:19
like the child and the person in the
46:21
front of a room has control over your
46:23
life and tell you what to do to
46:25
control you to have an abnormal degree. Oftentimes
46:28
members of the court, a ballet or called.
46:30
Kids and you don't develop a certain skills
46:32
even just like regular like logistical skills of
46:34
surviving in the world. And then you leave
46:36
the company in your like. I don't know
46:39
how to function and it can be very
46:41
discombobulating because like one person I talked to
46:43
in us you the New York City Ballet
46:45
as you like. I was part of one
46:48
of the most elite artistic institutions in the
46:50
entire world. I felt like I knew what
46:52
was up. I've lived in New York forever.
46:54
It's not like I'm totally sheltered in the
46:56
middle of nowhere with no concept of reality.
46:59
I've toured the world. For my arts,
47:01
but I felt like I was coming
47:03
out of a bunker because I didn't
47:05
realize when I hadn't learned in second.
47:08
Okay so I wanna go back to
47:10
talking about sort of like the logistics
47:12
of the industry. who gets to be
47:14
in this call and like what is
47:17
being in the cold even look like?
47:19
So let's say you come up through
47:21
Procedures ballet schools as a kid. How
47:23
do you ascend the hierarchy which what
47:26
is even look like Tommy Procedures companies
47:28
even aren't who. How many companies. Are
47:30
there? I actually don't know the
47:32
answer to that question, but there
47:34
are a handful of like those
47:37
who burrow elite companies which are
47:39
like the New York City Ballet,
47:41
New York City Ballet, American Ballet
47:43
Theater, that type of company. There
47:46
are these selects very elite companies
47:48
and I think the cultural norms
47:50
of those companies kind of get
47:52
passed down to schools. Around the
47:54
country. and like you said, you took ballet
47:56
for a short time as a kid. So
47:58
many people take ballet. So many
48:01
people in, they're just the everywhere you
48:03
go. There's a ballet school and it's
48:05
kind of like that culture is like
48:07
trickling down and as acting kids and
48:09
and how they were in and how
48:11
they see themselves. yeah league for some
48:14
reason everybody just cos please. Cult leader
48:16
and ballet school. a good season or
48:18
you know it would speak could just
48:20
be nice but I guess the technique
48:22
of the art form is so fucking
48:25
a rigid and the power dynamics have
48:27
been this way for so long that
48:29
most people. Are just lay eggs, eat
48:31
away at. I'm gonna put on
48:33
my best ballerina cult leader impression
48:35
and like knock these kids around
48:37
a little. It's. Wild how
48:39
easy it is. I think for teachers
48:41
to sell that role and like pass
48:44
on the a somewhat traumatic norms that
48:46
they grew up with an often they
48:48
try to improve them but cel like
48:50
it's hard to get rid of everything
48:52
because a lot of ballet culture is
48:54
like built into the choreography and built
48:56
in when you're teaching so I think
48:58
that can be pretty hard to disentangle.
49:00
And plus about in terms of who
49:02
gets to be in this group it's
49:04
hugely prioritizing and valuing way dancers and
49:07
in a white dancers with certain body
49:09
types. So it is very exclusive
49:11
in problematic ways and also exclusivity
49:13
I think leads to it's appeal
49:15
as well because if you are
49:17
chosen you feel very special. Oh
49:19
my God. One hundred percent Okay,
49:21
I just has a couple were
49:23
questions than that. I want to
49:26
play games. My second to last
49:28
question as what is the cold
49:30
the s stories you've ever heard
49:32
or witness Like how bad it
49:34
does the cult of ballet really
49:36
really Go Oh man I think.
49:38
Just. The fact that there can
49:41
be in sometimes no one to turn to
49:43
if that person who's in charge of your
49:45
livelihood and your chance to do this thing
49:47
they sacrifice everything for is pursuing you romantically
49:50
sexually. Whatever it's like what are you supposed
49:52
to do and also connected to that called
49:54
mean as as as their those hands of
49:57
that person as someone you've known since childhood
49:59
and very. There in late general experience
50:01
that your teacher it when you're a kid
50:03
is someone who will have perpetual control over
50:05
your career for the rest of your life.
50:07
Like if my middle school teacher was gonna
50:10
be like my boss twenty years later and
50:12
know how me enough that it very scary
50:14
situation again and it makes mistakes very high
50:16
all the time. Oh my God of my
50:18
sixth grades frickin math teacher Thank god she
50:21
doesn't have any authority over we Now that
50:23
yes not ladies yeah and you need to
50:25
be able to like, mess up and and
50:27
not have it affects your crew for ever
50:29
and like be able to say no to
50:32
something and not feel like it's gonna ruin
50:34
your career and feel like you have nowhere
50:36
to go So that to me is not
50:38
a good situation. Freaky Yeah. Like you can't
50:40
say something at the age of ten that
50:43
won't haunt you for the restroom. Says
50:46
it really feels like that sometimes. and
50:48
there are all these like cultural norms
50:50
around ballet that like I forget even
50:52
exist. Like just the fact that you're
50:54
not Brussels to sit down during a
50:56
ballet class. That said, sir the norm.
50:58
But it's like you have to learn
51:00
these things that are expected of you
51:02
and if you do them, it can
51:04
really affect how people view Hooley. Okay,
51:07
Do you have any advice for people who like
51:09
wanna put their kids in ballet or but don't
51:12
want them to be consumed by like a full.
51:14
And. It's. So hard. I. I
51:16
really struggle with this because I love
51:18
ballet and also I don't think there's
51:20
any way to do it completely safely
51:23
ran. Sort of like if you don't
51:25
want your kids to have any chance
51:27
of getting C D E, but they
51:29
really want to play football with you
51:31
do and I don't know. I mean,
51:34
I think being aware as you can
51:36
about some of these pitfalls will help
51:38
you keep an eye out for them,
51:40
making sure that your kid has a
51:42
teacher who is aware of these issues.
51:45
and valley culture and is working against
51:47
them and a lot of teachers are
51:49
working really hard against them and so
51:52
that's very promising but i'm also not
51:54
a parent ice i don't know how
51:56
to do it completely safely and and
51:58
also to try to prevent body
52:01
image stuff or maybe trying to
52:03
provide role models for them who
52:05
are vocal about
52:07
this. I went to a local
52:09
production of The Nutcracker and interviewed kids. And
52:11
I talked to this one dancer and she
52:14
was like, I've always been the biggest person
52:16
in the room. And she's
52:18
really struggled with her body image. And
52:20
then she came across this other plus
52:22
size ballet dancer on TikTok. And
52:24
it completely liberated her. This is a
52:27
teenager I was interviewing and she was
52:29
beaming with excitement about how liberated
52:31
she felt that she can dance at any
52:34
size and like be incredible. And
52:36
that made me very hopeful. Yeah, yeah.
52:38
Representation seriously matters. It makes people
52:40
feel less alone. It makes people
52:43
less susceptible to the trauma and
52:45
abuse of a cult, especially one
52:47
as legacy as
52:49
the cult of ballet. Okay,
52:56
so now we're gonna play a little game. It's
52:59
called on point or not on point.
53:02
And I basically had a
53:04
bunch of listeners submit their
53:07
most unfiltered assumptions about the
53:09
cult of ballet. And
53:11
I'm gonna read a few of them to you
53:13
and you're gonna determine whether the assumption is on
53:15
point or not on point. Love it.
53:18
I told people to like do their worst
53:21
because it was anonymous. So
53:23
this person said that their cult
53:25
of ballet assumption was teachers are
53:28
extremely manipulative to parents and dancers.
53:31
On point or not on point? Sometimes on
53:33
point. It depends on the teacher, but that definitely
53:35
can happen. All right, I would say pretty much
53:37
overall on point. Next
53:39
one, the competition. It's always super competitive
53:42
to get one role and they'll sabotage
53:44
in order to do that. Oof,
53:46
again, can be on point. Now
53:49
I think some dancers would fight back because
53:51
also dancers really bond and support each other.
53:54
So Again, it depends on the company you're in.
53:56
It depends on the culture you're in, But absolutely
53:58
there are cases of that. That point, Yeah,
54:01
how could it not? when the
54:03
culture is set of as it is
54:05
being so exclusive the plague You'll do
54:07
whatever it takes. Black Swan style. Okay,
54:10
I feeling I mean I are. You
54:12
know the answer. This isn't what you
54:14
claim so far by an envoy are
54:17
not on planes. The pain they have
54:19
to endure for the good of the
54:21
group. On played Ah the point. That
54:24
sells settlements or hands. Holy shit on. when
54:26
are not on place? Even if you just
54:29
do it for a short while, your feet
54:31
are permanently mirza. Not. I'm
54:33
point. I think you can do it for a
54:35
short while and not permanently mess up your see
54:37
I think so as I say that there have
54:40
been some lake I've been learning more about the
54:42
science of our like the ligaments develop and stuff
54:44
it and. I
54:46
don't know every bit as like I
54:48
think actually over flexibility and like pissing
54:50
turn out can be damaging but I'd
54:52
say i my seat seem pretty okay
54:54
and I did do a lot of
54:56
dancing so we did you a season
54:58
one episode of the show on the
55:01
Colds of Seats and I feel like.
55:03
Weird. Leave this is a companion of
55:05
soda that one for Wow. That as
55:07
a little is absolutely. I'm sure there's
55:09
a whole subculture to the cold of
55:11
see dedicated to ballet dancers, toes and
55:13
feet in particular. Oh my gosh, you're
55:16
probably right. Has to be love a
55:18
subculture? Well, that's a nice one. Okay,
55:20
on point are not on point. this
55:22
person says from personal experience they encourage
55:24
their children to join the call to.
55:28
Sometimes. Not on plate in that.
55:30
Also. On think again it depends on
55:33
the person like absolutely they're just like lineage
55:35
type pressure for some dancers but I've also
55:37
taught the dancers who do not want their
55:39
kids and saying and I just the other
55:42
day talk to someone whose daughter was dancing
55:44
and and who the mother what had been
55:46
a professional ballerina and she eventually pulled her
55:48
daughter out to She was like to that
55:51
at it as soon as like know yeah
55:53
with a miss to my see goes both
55:55
ways that how flattering well as legs money
55:57
so they can't dance because in two thousand.
56:01
Okay, next one. On point or not on point,
56:03
abuse is part of the game and you have
56:05
to endure it in order to make it. I'd
56:09
say unfortunately on point. I
56:11
mean, yeah. Emotional
56:13
abuse at the very least. Yeah.
56:15
On point or not on point,
56:17
only very controlled, emotionally suppressed humans
56:20
participate. Thanks center stage. Possibly.
56:25
That line that Maureen
56:27
says, she's just like,
56:30
I'm the best goddamn dancer in
56:32
the entire American ballet company. And
56:34
who the hell are you? Nobody.
56:37
I was like eight years old saying that to my parents. I
56:41
think it's almost an extent on point, because
56:43
you have to learn to suppress certain emotions
56:45
to persist. That's like it's making a bunch
56:47
of little cult leaders. You have to be
56:50
able to access your full range of emotions
56:52
or you end up like a little tyrant.
56:54
Because you have to be able to go
56:56
on stage after like a nightmare day and
56:59
smile and you know, dance and that's not
57:01
surprising. Some emotion. I don't know what is.
57:03
Okay, on point or not on point that
57:05
ballerinas can't really have a life or relationships
57:07
inside of that way. On
57:09
point. It's pretty all consuming. Yeah. On
57:12
point or not on point. This one is
57:14
similar to a previous one, but it's incredibly
57:16
cutthroat as a former dancer, never pro frenemies
57:18
were the norm. Unfortunately, on
57:20
point, not the rule,
57:23
but definitely frenemies in there. Yeah,
57:25
oh God. And that probably gives you trust issues.
57:27
You're like, who's trying to throw me under the
57:30
bus? I would imagine I think that could be
57:32
tough. Okay, on point or not on point. A
57:34
lot of men in ballet leadership are sex predators.
57:37
On point. On point or not
57:39
on point. It's expensive as fuck. This is
57:41
another thing I want to talk about like
57:43
the barrier to entry, right? Like all the
57:46
shit you have to buy. Extremely on point.
57:48
It's so expensive. I remember my mom losing
57:50
her mind whenever we would go to the
57:52
little dance supply store in my town being
57:54
like, you're nine years old. And I'm spending
57:57
how much money on the most uncomfortable shoe
57:59
ever made. for you? Absolutely.
58:01
Fuck. Okay, two more. On point
58:03
or not on point. Like race
58:05
horses, any injury or bodily imperfection
58:07
can be career ending. On point.
58:09
Absolutely. You like sprain your ankle,
58:12
they shoot you right there on
58:14
the rehearsal floor. Okay,
58:16
maybe not quite like race horses in
58:18
this. Okay, and the last one,
58:20
the one that was submitted literally 500
58:23
times on point or not on point, the culture
58:25
of eating disorders, body image issues, you gotta
58:27
be skinny. You can't be
58:29
anything other than starving. On
58:32
point, 100%. And even though people
58:34
are fighting against it, like it is so
58:36
pervasive. How do you even like, how does
58:39
your body even do that? If you're hungry?
58:41
I still can't comprehend it. I don't
58:43
know how it works, but certainly leads to
58:45
injuries. You know, if you're not eating and
58:47
you're dancing at that level, easily can lead
58:49
to more injuries. Hunger is bad.
58:51
It's so bad. Now
59:00
we have arrived at the ultimate verdict at the
59:02
end of every episode of Sounds Like a Cult.
59:04
We have to figure out what level of cult
59:07
the Cult of the Week is. So Erica, out
59:10
of our three cult categories, live
59:12
your life, watch
59:15
your back, and
59:17
get the fuck out. Which do
59:21
you think the Cult of Ballet falls into? I think
59:23
it's watch your back. Okay,
59:27
I don't know where you land. It was sounding
59:29
really get the fuck out. I'm probably still too
59:33
attached to it. I just, you know, I don't
59:36
know, man. I might still be
59:38
a little brainwashed as the problem. Aren't
59:40
we all? Me too. I mean, every ballet video
59:42
that exists on YouTube, I watched it. I watched
59:45
it. I am. Wow. I don't
59:47
know. It's really tough because it's like, it's
59:49
like you said, it's a beautiful art form.
59:51
There are parts of it that are really
59:54
nurturing and fulfilling.
59:56
And I think the
59:58
world without ballet, would be like
1:00:00
a little bit less beautiful, but
1:00:03
would the good outweigh the bad? I don't
1:00:05
know. It's like a little bit borderline.
1:00:08
Watch your back at the back. Yeah, honestly, maybe
1:00:10
it is get the fuck out. I think
1:00:12
if you're gonna do it, like maybe you're just
1:00:15
gonna have to really prioritize health and
1:00:17
self care. And I'd say go for
1:00:20
the company that's healthier and like less
1:00:22
prestigious and like go that route. Such
1:00:24
good advice for any cult like industry.
1:00:26
Now that you're saying that, I think
1:00:28
it's just a heavy watch your back.
1:00:31
Yeah, very heavy. Thank you so, so
1:00:33
much for joining me for this much
1:00:35
anticipated, highly requested, I might add, episode
1:00:37
of Sounds Like a Cult. If folks
1:00:39
wanna keep up with you and the
1:00:41
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1:00:43
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1:00:45
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1:01:00
yeah, that's it, amazing. Well,
1:01:02
that's our show. Thanks so much for
1:01:04
listening. Stick around for a new cult next
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1:01:09
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1:01:25
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1:01:27
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