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The following podcast is a dear media

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production. Welcome back y'all. All the basic

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babes are tuning in. I recently lost

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130 pounds and noticed

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how people switched up on me. Can y'all relate?

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Yes. I'm just beautiful, sexy

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as f*** and bloated. As someone who has

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high cortisol, PCOS, insulin resistance, the list goes

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on. You name it. I hit the genetic

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story. If he didn't want you

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then he f*** doesn't deserve you now. I've been

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there too and it does get better. I'm gonna

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try. Pretty basic. Hey

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guys, what's up? Welcome

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back to Pretty Basic.

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I am Rami Crews. And I am Alicia

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Marie. We are in the studio today and

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I miss you guys. I feel like it

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honestly, I just love

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coming in to the studio. I love Pretty Basic

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days. I love, I get so excited when our

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episodes go up. Like today an episode went up

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this morning and I always get excited when I

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realize it's Wednesday and it was uploaded and then

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I read the comments and yeah. So

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welcome back y'all. All the basic

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babes are tuning in. They are

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tuned in. Yes. Today, honestly, I'm

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really excited about this episode because I feel like I

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used to do this on my vlogs a lot and

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I feel like I haven't done it in a long

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time. I've been wanting to do it for a while.

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I've been getting a lot of questions and I feel

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like it's such a perfect topic to bring to Pretty

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Basic because I feel like it's a good check in

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with both of us. I feel like we've done quite

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a few episodes about this specific topic that we do,

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you know, once or twice

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a season, but it's always fun to check

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in. It's fun to listen to past episodes

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where we talked about things of this nature

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because it is an

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ever ongoing situation

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topic that is so prevalent in our

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lives that will always kind of be

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prevalent in our lives. And

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yeah, I think that we should start out with

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a trigger warning before though we get into everything

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because we are going to be talking about like

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body dysmorphia. I'm sure we'll get into like eating

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disorder things. And so just wanted to give a

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little. trigger warning beforehand that if any of those

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things trigger you, then this is probably not the

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episode to listen to. Yeah. And, um, I'm excited

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to talk about all of this too, because we,

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I feel like we used to do a lot

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of themed episodes kind of like this on just

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like different subjects and it's been a while. So

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one, if you guys like it, let us know,

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um, two, I would love

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for the comment section just to be uplifting to everyone

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and feel free to comment anything and

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like your own story or your own advice or

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anything like that. Cause it is ever changing. And

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I, I'm sure when you mentioned it on your

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vlogs years ago, or if we, you know, years

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ago when we talked about it on the podcast,

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like our opinions or advice has even changed and

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grown too. So, um, yeah, I

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just, I, I feel like this is an

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ever ongoing struggle. It

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does get easier as you get older, but like, I

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still struggle with my body image. Like I still struggle

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with my relationship to my body. I feel like every

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day is kind of different. Like there's days where I

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feel hot as fuck. There's days where I'm like, I

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could wear anything and I just feel like a sexy

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little thing. Then there's other days where I'm like, I

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like right now I'm

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like, I definitely wanted like bag here close

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today. Cause I was just like, uh, I really, I'm

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just like not feeling the hottest. I like fluctuate with

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my weight all the time, all

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the time. I hold onto water weight like no other. And

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right now I'm feeling hella bloated. Am I

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still beautiful and sexy as fuck? Yes. I'm

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just beautiful, sexy as fuck and bloated. Another

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one on there. Another one. Um, but yeah,

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it's taken a long time to get, I

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know where we both are with our relationships

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with our bodies. So excited for us to

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talk about it, but we also did put

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it on our Instagram story for pretty basic

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on our Instagram, pretty basic official. Go follow

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it. Um, for you guys to ask specific

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questions, because sometimes I feel like it's

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easy for us to think we kind of talk about

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the same thing. And I'd love to like actually address

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specific things that you guys have or

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things maybe I wouldn't have thought to ask you or

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you wouldn't have thought to ask me. So, um, love

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when you guys get involved, go follow the Instagram.

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Also, I do think it's fun though that they

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could ask the same question or we could be

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answering the same question that we did last year

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and have a completely different. either like six months

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ago. I do remember reading

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something online once and I had felt

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so seen. And

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it just, I know if you've ever

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struggled with your relationship with food,

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your relationship with your body, with an eating

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disorder, which Alicia and I have talked about

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our own personal experiences before, how we both

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have kind of gone through eating disorders at

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some point, which have been quite a struggle

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on their own and we're in a really

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good place sitting here right now. But

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I remember seeing online someone saying like, once

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you have one, you kind of

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always have some sort of, I

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don't wanna say eating disorder cause it's not like

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it changes obviously, but you just have

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a harder time with food usually for like the

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rest of your life. Like we know a lot

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of people who have never struggled with food in

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any way. And it's so interesting seeing their relationship

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with food and like that's something that I'll never

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have and that's amazing for them. And I'm actively

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everyday working on my relationship with food and my

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relationship with my body and all these sorts of

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things. But if you get

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it, you get it. Yeah, and it is different

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for everyone. It's like, it's so, for

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me personally, I feel like even as after I've learned

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more about like having ADHD

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and stuff, like I've learned how a lot

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of people with ADHD can tend to overeat

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cause they're seeking stimulation. So like even learning

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about that, like I think that's what my

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biggest piece of advice is like, really

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grow to learn your body. And like, I can't

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change that about myself. Like I'm constantly seeking different stimulation

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like that. So like don't be hard on myself

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because that's just like how I am. I can

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definitely like work with that. But if it's pointless for

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me to sit here and like look at my

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friend who never struggles with it and be like,

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why can't I be like you? I just wanna be

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like you or like try to emulate their eating

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patterns or whatever. Like that's just never gonna work

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cause I've tried that before and

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like being just so gentle on yourself. And you're like, okay, like

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this is one of my struggles. Someone else

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has other struggles, you know? And

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like, yeah, I think the way that some people

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even struggle with addictions, like just

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because they go sober or something, doesn't mean they still

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don't have the struggle of alcohol. They're like, it's like

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a daily battle. of choosing not to like do that.

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So I think eating disorders can be very similar because

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it's like, it's a disease. It's like

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your brain is like, is tricking me. It's not like,

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I don't know, I think it has this horrible stigma.

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And I think it just sucks for

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people to think that it's all just about like,

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Oh, it's so vain. You just want to like look a certain

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way. And I'm like, I feel like that's not even 90% of

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eating disorders. Like a lot of it's like feeling

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out of control. Like there's just so much to it.

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Obviously we're not doctors and obviously we gave a trigger

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trigger warning, but, um, I think what's

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helped me personally is hearing other people talk about

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it. And it not being like such a stigma.

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Also the exciting part. And I know you can

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talk on this too. Like I feel like I've

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truly accepted my body. Like, yes, there's little things

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I would love to change, love to change here

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and there. Like, no, I've never gotten any crazy

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surgery. Would I ever get some? Maybe, but I

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love that I'm in a place where it's less

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about my identity and it's not me feeling less

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than because I don't look a certain way or

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have a certain body type. I just, I truly

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feel like I love myself and my body. And

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yes, if you want to get Botox, if you want to get

6:56

some filler, like do that. That's your body. I totally agree. I

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know I've talked about it on recent episodes. And then I remember

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seeing a girl actually made a tick talk talking about how I

7:03

talked about it on the pod. And it's so funny because I

7:05

feel like we sit here and just like, we have, you and

7:07

I have these conversations all the time. Um, so

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to me, it just feels like another time we're

7:11

having the conversation, but you forget it's going out

7:14

to the masses. People are listening. People are taking

7:16

things in. And so I saw this girl made

7:18

a tick talk about it and I didn't realize

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like how much it could resonate with somebody else

7:22

where I had talked about how I

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finally in the past like couple of years,

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honestly, in the past year, if you guys

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did not know, I've been on GLP one

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slash also, um, terzepatide for the

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past, like a little bit over a year, like a

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year and three months now. And we'll,

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I'm sure there'll be questions about that. So we'll get

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more into it, but I've been on medication to help

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with my PCOS and all my symptoms and things. And

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I lost a significant

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amount of weight since starting the medication.

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I can even get into this more

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later on too, but I do think,

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uh, at first when I was on the medication, as we all

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know, so many people were

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on ozempic manjaro. We go. all

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these GLP ones, maybe for not

8:02

the right reasons. Maybe it wasn't prescribed by an

8:05

actual doctor. Like mine was prescribed through a

8:07

real doctor, through a gynecologist, through a PCOS specialist

8:09

for my insulin resistance and PCOS. But

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to be honest, when I got on it, I

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was comparing myself a lot to all these other

8:16

people who are on it who might

8:19

actually not necessarily need it, who weren't

8:21

actually prescribed it, or even if they

8:23

were prescribed it. I was like, for

8:25

real actual issues, whether it is like

8:27

weight loss or, some of

8:29

them are actually approved now for specifically weight loss, or

8:32

for PCOS or whatever it is, I

8:35

wasn't losing weight super, super fast. I haven't

8:37

lost weight super, super fast. And- Yeah,

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I feel like it has been very gradual. Yeah, not that,

8:42

and like I wasn't expecting to get on and lose it

8:44

all because I was even apprehensive to start it because I

8:46

was nervous and just all these sorts of things. I've tried

8:49

so much medication throughout my life for PCOS specifically, and I

8:51

wasn't like sitting at home upset, but there are definitely times

8:53

where I was like, oh, like, wow, they're losing weight really

8:55

fast. I wonder why I'm not, like I wonder if there's

8:57

something wrong, but I do

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think A, it's because the medicine's like, I'm

9:03

not abusing it for any other reason than like I'm actually

9:05

using it for my symptoms, but I

9:07

just came to terms with the fact that like, I

9:09

mean, my blood panels, I just went through

9:12

them with my doctor the other day, are

9:14

so, so much better in every

9:16

regard than when I started. Like before there

9:18

were so many things that were off the

9:20

charts, from my cholesterol to my testosterone levels

9:22

to like my progesterone levels, like so many

9:25

things were off, estrogen really low. Now

9:27

that I've been on medication, I've been taking care

9:29

of myself, I've been eating better, I've been working

9:32

out more, I've just, I've developed a much healthier

9:34

lifestyle, but more importantly, a balanced lifestyle. I've

9:37

lost a very large amount

9:39

of weight, but I've plateaued

9:42

many a times during my journey.

9:45

And sometimes I'm like, oh, I wonder if there's

9:47

something wrong. No, there's nothing wrong. I've literally even

9:50

checked with my doctor, like, is this normal? They're

9:52

like, it's so normal. Also, she'll look

9:54

at me and she's like, what I love is that

9:56

you're strong. And like, you

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can tell that you are strong because I'm actively working. I'm

10:00

actively taking care of myself. I'm not just losing weight because

10:03

I'm not eating on this medication. Like I've actually

10:05

like understood how to live

10:08

a healthier lifestyle. All to say, sorry, this was

10:10

so long winded. I have realized

10:12

even after losing a very large amount of weight, I

10:15

still maintain a curvier body

10:17

physique, like a shape, because

10:20

that is just the body that I have

10:22

been blessed with. I've lost so much weight

10:24

and I still need extra wide, not even

10:26

wide calf, extra wide calf boots, because I

10:28

just have wide calves. I will always have

10:30

wide calves no matter what, and like that's

10:32

okay. And I think for both

10:35

of us, especially in our early twenties,

10:37

like we thought we could

10:40

change our actual body physique. Yes. Like

10:42

I'm talking like change it. When

10:46

we had the wrong goals in mind of

10:48

just like, quote, being skinny or like quote

10:50

being smaller or like maybe you even getting

10:52

taller or like smaller calf or whatever, you

10:54

know? I just feel like it's so much

10:56

different now because I feel like a

10:59

lot of our goals are like health focused of

11:01

like our own health, our own blood panels, our

11:03

own like, you know, making sure your periods are

11:05

regular, like all these different things. And it's really

11:07

cool actually, because I feel like we're coming from

11:09

very different approaches. Like obviously you went from having

11:11

like no period, struggling with and like needing a

11:13

medication where like I'm the complete opposite of that.

11:15

So I feel like regardless of

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where you are in your journey, like hopefully you can relate

11:19

to either of us. But

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I feel like now focusing on like, I just want

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to feel good. And then

11:26

when weight loss comes secondary to that,

11:29

like that's when you were talking, that's all I heard

11:31

you say was like, you were focused on making your

11:33

body the healthiest it can be. And the weight loss

11:35

was like a second part of that.

11:38

And obviously like that was great. But if

11:40

you, when we've gone in the past focusing

11:42

on just those things, like it never ends

11:44

well. And just focusing on feeling good and

11:46

like treating your body like as best as

11:48

you can. For sure. Yeah. Absolutely. I just

11:50

want to be like, it gets so much

11:52

better. And I like, and I'm excited to

11:54

get into the questions and stuff because I'm

11:56

very happy where we both are and yeah.

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if I could go back to my 20 year old self, this is

12:02

for her, this episode. We can only go up from here. And

12:04

we've already made so many strides from when we,

12:06

I remember when we started this podcast, like I

12:08

think back when who I was and

12:11

what I thought I knew at that time, even

12:14

doing an episode like this. And

12:16

I was so wrong about everything,

12:18

like everything. You were wrong though, because you

12:21

didn't even know your diagnosis. No, and like

12:23

I don't blame her on, I'm like, I

12:25

just, I'm happy for where

12:27

I've gotten now. I am

12:29

so happy to share all of the

12:31

knowledge that I've learned about PCOS specifically.

12:33

I remember more recently, I got

12:35

a bunch of messages from people saying that Brittany Broski had

12:38

just gotten, which I would love to have her on and

12:40

talk about it, because I feel like that'd be such a

12:42

good episode, but she had just recently gotten diagnosed. And I

12:44

had quite a few with PCOS and I had a lot

12:46

of people being like, let me run me, oh my God,

12:49

oh my God. Like, I feel like I've become the poster

12:51

child of PCOS on YouTube, which I love. I don't know

12:53

a lot about it still, but I will like champion to

12:55

share things. And so I immediately texted her

12:57

and I was like, I've been going through this for

12:59

seven, six, seven years now. If I,

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let me just give you this information

13:04

I have, since I've known,

13:06

I've been going through it my whole life. But just,

13:08

I've known about it now and I've been trying to

13:10

find a solution for seven years now. Here's

13:13

what I learned in the last six months. It has changed

13:15

my life. If I could just give that to you now

13:17

and you don't have to go through any of that, I'm

13:19

so happy I went through that for somebody else. I really

13:21

am. Like even one person. For sure. So

13:23

happy to share, but let's get into the question.

13:26

Okay, we actually think this is a great

13:28

first question. I won't say

13:31

the name, but it says, how do you keep

13:33

a positive mindset with working out for your mental

13:35

slash physical wellbeing versus viewing it as a punishment?

13:38

I feel like that's how I, my

13:41

first round of me into

13:43

the health and fitness world, I

13:47

would force myself to work out almost as like

13:49

a punishment of like, oh, I ate all of

13:51

this. Well, now I better freaking work out. Other

13:53

way, like as a punishment, or I

13:56

would make myself, like even while I was running, I

13:58

would like say nasty thoughts to myself. to be

14:01

like, I just be like, you fucking piece of shit.

14:03

Like you're like the spongrel. Like, like, like, like whatever.

14:05

Like, like treating, like just treating

14:07

myself mentally because I thought that gave

14:09

me good motivation, which maybe it

14:11

did for the 30 minutes I was running, but

14:14

then like, makes you feel bad after. Yeah. And

14:16

when you're, I mean, words are so powerful to,

14:18

so like negative self-talk and alone is like

14:21

so hard on your, so it only made it

14:23

worse in the end because it made me more

14:25

insecure of those things anyway. You

14:27

know what I mean? So if I

14:29

was like walking on the treadmill, I'd be like,

14:31

oh, like your legs are like jiggling. Like

14:34

you better keep working out so they

14:36

don't, which hello, it's skin. It's gonna

14:38

do that. Okay. First

14:40

of all, unfortunately, it took me way too long

14:42

to realize that. And

14:45

then again, secondly, that only instilled my insecurity.

14:47

That didn't fix anything. Do you know what

14:49

I mean? So even if you think that's

14:51

like good motivation, it's

14:53

not like in the long-term it's not, and it's only gonna

14:56

make things so much more worse. So I think like don't

14:58

even view any workout as a

15:00

punishment. Like view it as empowering yourself. Our bodies

15:02

are so crazy what they can do. Like our

15:04

bodies can literally like heal themselves. Our bodies can

15:06

like go so much further than what you think

15:09

is possible. And like they're so strong, they take

15:11

care of us. Like your body's on your side.

15:13

You know what I mean? Like you are working

15:15

together. Like don't fight yourself. Like, and

15:17

I think just like it's not a punishment. You're like

15:19

doing your body a service by getting a walk-in or

15:22

like, you know, it doesn't have to be a crazy

15:24

like 90 minute hit workout, but even

15:26

just like a walk or going outside and just

15:28

being outside. There's so many days where I'm like,

15:30

at least you didn't even leave the house. Like

15:33

get outside, breathe fresh air, like take care of

15:35

your body. And then

15:37

I think once you start being more grateful for

15:39

your body, you start, stop seeing it so much

15:41

as like a punishment. Totally agree with everything you

15:43

said. I also think something that we need to

15:45

keep in mind is that everything is genetic. Like

15:49

you are predisposed to things because of your genetics.

15:51

So like cellulite, a lot of it is genetic.

15:53

So if you like, if your parents have it,

15:56

you might have it as well. My mom has it. She's

15:58

always had it. It's what I have. Cellulite. height,

16:02

calf size, it's all genetic. So being like, yeah,

16:04

be a lot more gentle on yourself. There are

16:06

so many things that are out of your

16:08

control. And once you understand that, you

16:11

will have a much easier time accepting yourself.

16:13

Truly. That was a huge thing for me.

16:16

Huge, huge thing. Second of all, oh,

16:18

mindset with working out. I

16:20

think, I agree, at one

16:22

point in my life, I definitely viewed it as a

16:24

punishment. I also talked

16:27

about this in the last episode, but I

16:29

do view a lot of things, I'm going

16:31

to be honest. I don't think I'll ever

16:33

be a girl who enjoys working out. I

16:35

really, really don't. I would rather

16:38

rot on the couch all day, like just being

16:40

so honest. I'd rather be like playing on my

16:42

phone or computer or like doing

16:44

literally anything else than like working out. That's just me.

16:46

Some people wake up and like love to work out.

16:48

And that is amazing for them. My one

16:50

advice I can give to people who don't enjoy it and

16:53

feel like they, like to

16:55

some degree we have to, like whether it is

16:57

taking a walk, it's just moving your body. We

16:59

need to do that. You can't be sedentary your

17:01

whole life. So I think start

17:03

small, go for a walk. Doesn't

17:06

need to be miles on, could be a

17:08

walk around the block. Like start small and

17:11

then work your way up slash also finding

17:13

workouts that you actually enjoy. And

17:15

also workouts that are going

17:17

to help your body. For instance,

17:20

as someone who has high cortisol,

17:22

PCOS, insulin resistance, the list

17:24

goes on. You name it. You name it, I

17:26

got it. I hit the genetic glory. And

17:30

so for so long, I always

17:32

heard people say, high intensity workouts are

17:35

not good. If you have high cortisol, it's actually like

17:37

not going to help you. Yeah, it's just stressing your

17:39

body out more and more. You're not going to lose

17:41

weight. You're not going to feel good. You're going to

17:43

be tired. I remember being like, that's

17:45

mumbo jumbo. I was doing

17:48

seven spin classes a week. And while it was a

17:50

good cardio and like that was, I

17:53

did enjoy it, which is good. Obviously like

17:55

moving your body is good. It actually was

17:57

stressing my body out so much. And our

17:59

bodies again, going back to how like. they

18:01

are, it adapts. Like your body then learned,

18:03

oh, I'm probably gonna go through seven

18:05

spin classes this week, so I better

18:07

hold, conserve even more energy, which is

18:09

going against your goal. Like it's like

18:11

really working with your body. Yeah. And

18:13

so now knowing that, I've started doing

18:15

Pilates and I go, I started

18:18

only going like maybe once or twice a week.

18:20

Now I will go like five, seven times a

18:22

week, just because I actually do enjoy it now.

18:25

I'm still not like waking up excited to go at 7 a.m.

18:27

Like, let me be honest. I don't know if I ever will

18:29

be there, but I enjoy it

18:31

more than I used to. And I enjoy it more

18:33

than if I went to a spin class or if

18:35

I went to like a class that I don't enjoy

18:37

as much or I run, hate running, I'll never like

18:39

running. So I'm like, I found something that I like

18:42

more than that. But my body's

18:44

working with it. I've always heard that low intensity lists,

18:47

low intensity steady state workouts are better for

18:49

someone like me. So like a yoga,

18:52

a Pilates, rowing, something like

18:54

that is like a choreo walking. So

18:56

I didn't really figure out like what works best

18:58

for your body and then within that, what do

19:01

you enjoy the most? Swimming, what else can you

19:03

do? Tennis, pickleball, golfing, literally anything that you enjoy

19:05

because it'll make it just a more enjoyable experience.

19:07

No, I fully agree with all that. I had

19:10

so many thoughts, but I feel like we'll also

19:12

get into it with the next question. Okay, I've

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I'm telling you, your girls are gonna thank you

22:25

for this one. What are tips to get more

22:27

water throughout the day? Besides watching our Remy vlog,

22:29

of course, five big

22:32

steps, everybody. Honestly, getting

22:34

a big water bottle is very, very helpful.

22:37

I have this one. This is a 40 ounce water

22:39

bottle. I drink four of these a day. So

22:42

I love water though. I really do. I

22:44

love chugging water. But someone like Cal who

22:46

struggles to get water, he got himself a

22:48

gallon water bottle and he just lugs that

22:50

thing with him everywhere. And he just knows,

22:52

okay, I'm gonna try my best to finish

22:54

one of these a day. So I think

22:56

finding whatever you want, obviously

22:58

these little water bottles are so in right

23:01

now. You're Stanley, you're Brumay, you're whatever it

23:03

is. It's a really good way to obviously

23:05

get your water in. But I

23:07

do think, versus just filling up cups. I have

23:09

so many friends that just fill up cups through

23:12

the day. I'm like, you can't keep trying. It's

23:14

not cold. I love my water. I use cold.

23:16

I can chug this all day long. My biggest

23:18

thing is if I don't have my water bottle

23:21

with me as if it's my phone, I'll forget.

23:23

Today I forgot to bring my thermos or my

23:25

water bottle. So I'm way behind my water. But

23:27

the days that I wake up and take it

23:30

right off my shelf and carry it around me

23:32

everywhere, I drink so much more water. Also, I

23:34

have so many friends. My mom is the same

23:36

way. She hates the taste of water. That's so

23:38

crazy. I crave water all the

23:41

time. But if you're like my mom or

23:43

there's so many people in my life that

23:45

don't like water, a lot of them do

23:47

a little water flavor situation or an electrolyte

23:49

situation to get more water in without

23:52

having to drink as much or like a flavoring something, like

23:54

just to make it easier for them to drink. At

23:56

the end of the day, it's

23:58

such an important thing to get water in.

24:00

for your overall health, to literally hydrate yourself

24:02

for all the things. So whatever you need

24:04

to do to get more water in, there's

24:07

something for everybody. And sparkling

24:09

water is just as hydrating as regular

24:11

water. Believe it or not, I was

24:13

shocked to hear that. So

24:15

if you're a sparkling girl, chug a lug. Which is

24:17

crazy to me, because I never thought it was, but

24:19

I did see a TikTok that said it was, so

24:21

is it? I heard from a doctor, which so I'm

24:23

like, I think it's a little dry. Okay, this question

24:26

is, it's home for me. How

24:28

do you deal with not comparing yourself to your

24:30

smaller friends? I think this is

24:32

something that like, even if I could go

24:34

back, I don't know if I

24:37

could say like, I wouldn't have that insecurity

24:39

anymore, because I just, for whatever reason, the

24:42

schools I grew up in, I was always one of the tallest

24:44

in my class. That's why I always talk about my height now.

24:46

Like I'm really not that tall. I'm like five, seven and a

24:48

half, five, eight on a good day. Like I just, like for

24:50

whatever reason, that like just always growing up the tallest one when

24:52

they're like, okay, tallest in the back, I go to the back

24:55

and like feeling big when all the

24:57

guys only liked the very, very short small

24:59

girls, like that clearly like ingrained something in

25:01

me. And even

25:03

though I can logically look back and be like, oh,

25:05

I just like grew sooner and these guys literally didn't

25:07

grow until they were like seniors. You know what I

25:10

mean? I can say it sucks because I felt like

25:12

I always thought I was like ugly or like guys

25:14

didn't like me, or I was just like the

25:16

da for like, I was, I don't

25:19

know. Like I think that like, I don't know if

25:21

I necessarily have advice other than it gets so much

25:24

better. Yeah. But that definitely

25:26

like was a huge insecurity of mine. Honestly,

25:29

still sometimes like if I were super huge heels, I'm like,

25:31

oh, I would wear these heels if I wasn't seven feet

25:33

tall, which like, I

25:35

wish I didn't think that way. Cause if I

25:37

see a tall girl in heels, I'm like, oh

25:39

my God, yes bitch work model. Model, but when

25:41

it's me, I'm like, I feel like a huge

25:43

fucking ogre. So like, I'm just not gonna wear

25:45

these really cute Sabrina Carpenter platform boots. And

25:50

again, like, oh, it sucks because I'm

25:52

like, I mean, I still like, I

25:54

love high heels, but

25:56

I like, I'll barely wear them. So I don't know if

25:58

this is necessarily good advice. This is just me saying. I'm

26:00

still struggling with it. I think that's beautiful though. Like I

26:03

don't, we don't have it all figured out obviously. Like we

26:05

are still currently going through it now. And if we do

26:07

this again, when we do this again, in a

26:09

year again, I'm sure our answers will change. Yeah.

26:11

But I do think, I totally know what you

26:13

mean though. Like you could go back to your

26:16

old mindset. I understand like putting

26:18

myself back. I could put myself right back in

26:20

the feeling of feeling insecure and unwanted

26:22

and all those sorts of things. Like when

26:25

I used to feel that way, like it's so

26:27

easy to put yourself back there. Even if you

26:29

understand, yeah, those guys are probably, they hadn't hit

26:31

their growth spurt yet, so they're, they're only options

26:33

to feel tall. We're the five little five feet

26:36

girlies. Like totally understand that, but it doesn't make

26:38

it better. Like you still can feel those feelings.

26:40

So I totally get that. I think, um,

26:43

it's so, it's so hard. I grew up with the

26:45

very, I still have the most petite mom. Like I

26:47

look at her and I'm like, how did you birth

26:50

me? Like I'm taller than her. I wave like literally

26:52

twice as much as her. Sometimes like it's, it's just,

26:55

I don't understand how it makes sense. But, and I,

26:58

like, I feel like a lot of my life, I was just like, not

27:00

understanding why I was so much bigger than

27:02

whether it was my cousins, like even within

27:04

family specifically friends, genetically. See, I haven't struggled

27:06

with that. Like that would be very hard

27:09

too. It was just like, it

27:11

just make it make sense. Why is she literally so

27:13

small? One plus one does not, I

27:16

was dropped off on the doorstep,

27:18

but it's like, honestly. Again,

27:21

genetically, whatever, like I'm, whatever it is

27:23

genetically, I got the recessive gene. Um,

27:26

I think it's just, it's just

27:29

something that you have to come to terms with. That's

27:31

the only thing I can say. I wish I had

27:33

more advice. I agree with it. It gets better. It

27:35

does. And you know why it gets better. I've talked

27:37

about this in regards to turning 30, which it's applies

27:40

here too. It's like, am I

27:42

like, wow, I have the absolute best body type now

27:44

and I think I look perfect and I'm like so

27:46

hot and whatever. No, but I'm just so tired of

27:49

trying to feel like maybe I could look somewhere else

27:51

or like look like this or like, like trying so

27:53

hard to work out to get like thinner thighs when

27:55

now I'm just like, bitch, you got thighs. You will

27:57

always have thighs. Yeah. Like that's.

28:00

That's okay. So I think it's like coming to

28:02

terms with like, you know what, like I can't

28:04

change this. Everyone, even someone who you think

28:06

has the perfect body will talk about an

28:09

insecurity they have. And that happens,

28:11

one thing, I'm a pear shaped, so like

28:13

my upper abs, like I've never really gained

28:15

weight in my upper stomach where like I've

28:17

had so many people just be like, oh

28:20

my God, like your abs, your abs. I'm like, okay, but like,

28:22

but I have, yeah, body, body, body,

28:25

body, body. I'm like, oh

28:27

my God, thanks. No, I'm just kidding. And I'm

28:29

like, yeah, but because of that, all my weight

28:31

goes to my thighs and like they don't, you

28:34

know, and where they're the opposite.

28:36

That might not be something they struggle with. Yeah,

28:38

so, but so it's just, again, everything, grass

28:41

always is greener on the other side. Even something that

28:43

like, I don't struggle with, maybe you struggle with and

28:45

vice versa. And I'm just like, oh

28:47

my God, you have no cellulite. And I'm so fucking jealous

28:49

bitch. You'll wear these short little mini skirts. And I'm like,

28:52

ah, I want to so bad, which like, yes, I

28:54

can. But I've also come to terms with, if I

28:56

don't feel comfortable in something, I don't have to wear

28:58

it. That's the one thing I kind of struggle with

29:00

with some body positivity stuff where it's like, wear whatever

29:03

you want, do whatever you want. I'm like, yes, but

29:05

I'm like, but in the end, if you don't feel

29:07

comfortable, you don't have to. Just because I know I

29:09

still look hot and sexy as fuck in a mini

29:11

skirt, doesn't mean I have to wear it if

29:14

I don't feel comfortable in it. You know what I mean? And

29:16

I feel like sometimes it can feel like, no, you should wear

29:18

this because you can, where it's like, yes, I can, but I

29:20

also like feel more comfortable like this.

29:22

You know? And what I struggle with

29:24

too, I feel like the idea of things

29:26

being quote unquote flattering I

29:28

do understand. And like also one thing to

29:31

go back to what we were just saying,

29:33

the problem with all of this, of what

29:35

we're talking about, which this would literally not

29:37

be a problem if this did not exist

29:39

is the idea of yeah, society's norms of

29:41

what is quote unquote, beautiful and hot and

29:43

sexy and ideal. Like that is obviously the

29:45

problem that we have. If that was never

29:47

a thing, if the idea of heroin chic

29:50

was not like so trendy when we were

29:52

growing up, then we would not be having

29:54

this conversation right now. The only perfect body

29:56

that society tells you isn't

29:58

even achievable genetics. Like you want the model legs,

30:00

you don't get the ass with it. You have

30:02

the ass, you don't have the model legs that

30:04

go with it. Like it's like, it's

30:07

like it picks and chooses every single quote,

30:09

good trait and puts it together in a

30:12

body that's not even achievable without like modification.

30:14

Like, so then it's just so frustrating cause

30:16

it's like, okay, like it's just, you can't

30:18

keep up and you can't, you'll, it'll never,

30:20

I don't know. Not all of

30:22

us are Courtney Kardashian who's like has no body. You

30:25

know, in the interview, she was like, it was like, they did

30:27

it. It was so funny. I think it

30:29

was for Skims. You don't remember it was an ad

30:31

where every sister modeled the Skims and it was like,

30:34

what's your name? My name's Kendall. How old are you?

30:36

20, blah, blah, blah. How high are you? What's your

30:38

biggest insecurity? And she'd be like, my broad shoulders or

30:40

something. So like, I went through every sister and Courtney's

30:42

was the only one. It was like, what's your biggest

30:44

insecurity? She's like, I don't have any. Good. And

30:46

I was like, no, I'm so jealous. I was like,

30:48

damn, like I've never really met anyone like that. He

30:50

was like, no, I actually don't have any like body

30:53

insecurities, you know? That's like Dua Lipa when they're like,

30:55

what's your better side? She's like, doesn't matter. Oh, mine's

30:57

my right. Either side. Can't relate. Honestly

30:59

though, I love that. Like I love that for them.

31:01

I really do. Sorry, I just thought of this when

31:03

you said better side. Like that's something else. I would

31:06

get so much body dysmorphia looking at photos and videos

31:08

of me until I realized I was like, Alicia, you

31:11

just have a better side and that's okay. Like I

31:13

would think, because I always wanted a nose job ever since

31:15

I was freaking in like middle school. And

31:17

I remember like looking at photos

31:19

and I'd be like my nose, my nose, my

31:21

nose. And now after years and years, after over

31:24

a decade of filming myself and

31:26

taking photos for the internet as like an influencer, I've

31:28

finally realized, oh, I just don't like my face

31:30

from that angle, which is like everyone, everyone has

31:32

that. You know the video of Ariana Grande where

31:34

she refused to let them see her right side.

31:36

And what's funny is I'm the opposite. My,

31:39

is my left side. But like that's fine. It's a

31:41

good thing for a reason. But like think, like, I

31:43

think our minds are so crazy, especially like you see

31:45

one photo and you're like, that's what I actually look

31:48

like. The way that a wide lens

31:50

will make me look like my nose is so

31:52

fucking big because it's a, you put a 0.5

31:54

photo on your face and tell me that's what

31:56

you actually look like. No, but like, it's just,

31:59

I don't know. I feel like there's so much

32:01

to it that luckily now it's like have you

32:03

seen those videos that it's a photographer and it

32:05

takes Photos of a

32:07

subject with all different focal lenses

32:11

It will show you the difference of a 50

32:13

millimeter lens to like a 12 to like a

32:15

why that's cool It shows how lenses will distort

32:17

your body, you know People

32:19

say like you can't you can't listen to the

32:21

hate comments But you also can't listen to like

32:24

the ones that love you because like it's not

32:26

healthy I choose to believe that the bad photos

32:28

of me are not what I look like But

32:30

I also have to believe the best photos of

32:32

me are not what I look like I'm somewhere

32:34

in the middle. I thought you meant the best

32:37

ones are I'm like, you're so right. I'm so

32:39

real for that Like yeah, like clearly that so

32:41

so truly honestly, it's somewhere in the middle. Yeah,

32:43

it's somewhere between Poot and I see

32:45

a horrible photo of myself. I feel like now I

32:47

can look and like well, I'll make fun of it

32:49

I'll make Remy look how bad I look but I'm

32:51

like aware. It's just a fucking bad photo and I

32:53

wasn't ready Okay, I wasn't ready. I didn't

32:56

know that the camera was already it was taken. Okay,

32:58

that was a test shot Yes, but that but me

33:00

ten years ago I would have been like oh my

33:02

god That's what I look like and I would have

33:04

had this sinking feeling in my gut of like wow,

33:06

I'm so ugly also I've learned I'm tall I can't

33:08

stay on the end of photos I have to be

33:10

in the middle and you know what the second I

33:12

figured that out boom suddenly I like hot never photo

33:14

I didn't know that you thought that I'm getting a

33:16

nod. Yes Tall girls get it if

33:18

you're on the end you look three times as big

33:21

just because of the distortion or if I'm not in

33:23

a line Because you know how normally like the lines

33:25

kind of V out if I'm just closest to the

33:27

camera I look a foot extra taller and it's just

33:29

like but again, no one else is looking but me

33:31

I was I mean, it's just so funny because I

33:33

know obviously how you feel about being tall But

33:35

the way that I would give anything to

33:38

not have like to be a little bit

33:40

taller Like so like I would love to

33:42

walk in your shoes for a day. Ah,

33:44

the things you would see, you know And

33:47

I know grass is always greener but like like you

33:50

just said no one's like looking at that Yeah, I

33:52

feel like if you look tall, I'd be like damn

33:54

bitch. You look like a model Oh, I would just

33:56

be like wow. I look so big like like I

33:58

just look it's like Like I

34:00

literally like how Chloe would be to like Kim and

34:02

Courtney. Yeah. Like I'm just like, speaking

34:05

of genetics, like damn. But for me, I'm

34:07

like, oh my, it's just, it's again, realizing

34:09

no one else is looking at you, everyone's looking at

34:11

themselves in photos. Yeah. Is the first step of acceptance.

34:14

Also like gym intimidation, like everyone's always like, how do

34:16

you go to the gym and work out? Which I'm

34:18

sure like there are questions about that. No one's looking

34:20

at you. No one's looking at you. In the most

34:23

nice, respectful way, no one cares. Like no one's looking

34:25

at you. You are going to the gym to work

34:27

out and then go home. Like they are all, everyone's

34:29

there to do it. No one wants to be there.

34:32

Everyone wants to go home after. So yeah, if you

34:34

need to stand in the middle, find your good side.

34:36

That's okay. Someone asked Remy, how did you find out

34:38

you have PCOS? Did you ask a doctor or did

34:40

a doctor tell you slash also I'll go into this

34:43

as well. Cause this will go in. Another person asked,

34:45

I just started a GLP one. What is the one

34:47

thing that you recommend the most? Okay. So I'll do

34:49

a little quick spiel in case you didn't know. Um,

34:52

I found out that I had PCOS. I struggled

34:54

my whole life with having a

34:57

period with weight gain, with tiredness,

34:59

with all the, all the things

35:01

I will say. I never really

35:04

struggled too much with excessive body hair, which is like

35:06

a very big indicator if you have PCOS and that's

35:08

just one of them. There's so many. Yes. They're in

35:10

like, so I always thought like, oh, I didn't have

35:12

it very bad because I didn't struggle with all of

35:14

the lists, all the symptoms on the list. Um,

35:17

I found out because I had gotten birth

35:19

control back in 2018. I

35:21

had gone when I was like 16 or so to the,

35:24

um, doctor. I

35:26

don't know if it was an OBGYN, but a doctor, uh,

35:28

because I wasn't getting a period, they recommended me to go on birth

35:31

control as a 16 year old. And my

35:33

mom said, well, I don't really want her to get on

35:35

that. If she doesn't necessarily need it, if she's not having

35:37

sex yet, I wasn't.

35:39

So spoiler, I

35:41

wasn't not for a long time. And

35:43

so, uh, she said, my mom

35:46

was like, okay, well, if she doesn't have to, then I'd

35:48

rather she not. So I didn't get on anything. Um,

35:50

when I was 22, I think it was,

35:52

I got birth control for the first time and

35:55

I had done the next one on,

35:57

which is the birth control that goes

36:00

into your arm. Got that in. had

36:02

a really horrible experience with that, developed

36:04

like really horrible cystic acne, struggle

36:07

of my weight plateaued, I was really trying to lose

36:09

weight at that time and I like had a really

36:12

hard time, like my body just changed, so many things

36:14

were off. And I believe you can

36:16

have it for three years, three and a half years.

36:18

I had it in for I believe like two years

36:20

or so, year and a half, I forget exactly how

36:22

long. I went to go get it taken out. And

36:26

when I got it taken out, I had found out from

36:28

the doctor very abrasively,

36:30

very passively that

36:34

I had PCOS. He was like, well, why would you get

36:36

this one? Cause I told him I was like struggling with

36:38

so many of the symptoms, I wanted it out. And he

36:40

like looks at my chart and he's like, well, why would

36:42

you have gotten this one? You have PCOS and then like

36:45

literally left the room. And I was like, wait, yeah, wait,

36:47

question. First of all, what does that stand for? Second of

36:49

all, what does that mean? Found

36:51

out I had PCOS, I've been struggling my

36:53

whole life. I didn't know. And

36:56

then I tried to get on other birth controls

36:58

to help with that after, went

37:00

through a lot of medication to try and fix

37:03

it after. And it wasn't until 2023,

37:06

I found a PCOS specialist who has been helping

37:08

me with everything, but I have so many people

37:11

in my life now. I'm not kidding. Like I

37:13

feel like I am the poster child for PCOS

37:15

within all of our friends and things. If they're talking

37:18

to me like, oh, I'm struggling with my weight. I

37:20

feel like I'm trying to lose weight and it's not,

37:22

I'm not losing any weight. My

37:24

periods are out of whack, whatever it is. They're

37:27

like, what do you think it could be? I'm like, go

37:29

get tested to see if you have PCOS or it

37:31

could be something else, endometriosis, like so many other things that

37:33

could be hormonal. But it's

37:35

honestly, you can tell from a simple blood

37:38

test, they just need to run the scan

37:40

for it. And it's simply a ratio. If

37:42

you have X amount over X amount and

37:44

it's high, boom, you know you have it.

37:46

So it's that simple. I wish I had

37:48

known this whole time. I

37:50

did not know. Also there's levels

37:52

like yours is extreme. And

37:54

I remember I talked about me having PCOS a few

37:57

years ago, but that's when I was working out so

37:59

hardcore. that technically my doctor

38:01

at the time was like, yeah, like

38:03

it is PSUS, but it's

38:05

not like extreme. And now it's like, I don't

38:07

have those levels anymore. Like the ratio is back

38:09

normal. So like it just shows how like, there

38:11

are so many different levels to it. So obviously

38:14

like, you'll only know

38:16

that with a doctor. Getting the diagnosis

38:18

was so great. It was still really

38:20

sad. Cause I was like, oh no, I feel like I'm, well,

38:23

it's so nice to have be

38:25

validated that something was wrong. Then I felt like

38:27

I was at the bottom of the, another huge

38:29

and even bigger mountain where I'm like, okay, well,

38:31

how do I figure this out? But

38:35

with the help of my doctor has been amazing. I

38:37

have been on a GLP one. I've been super open

38:39

about that since I started. And it

38:41

changed my life. Honestly, it really, really did

38:43

in so many ways. I think make sure

38:45

you go talk to your doctor about it,

38:48

get real answers from a physician

38:50

who like obviously knows what they're talking about. Get more

38:52

than one opinion. I think it's so important, but I

38:54

just want to like sit here and I don't want

38:56

to, you know, come on here and like tell everyone,

38:58

look, you should start it. It's the best thing ever

39:01

for me personally. It was amazing because I

39:03

struggled so much with my high cortisol,

39:05

with my insulin resistance, all these sorts

39:07

of things that there, this was literally

39:09

made to help me. My body literally

39:12

works as if I am diabetic and I

39:14

was very close to being pre-diabetic. And so

39:16

it's been amazing for me, but also

39:19

in tandem with working

39:22

out with developing a better, healthier lifestyle

39:24

because before I was incredibly sedentary, I

39:26

feel like I was just in not

39:28

a good place. I was honestly slipping

39:30

into, I was slipping into a depressive

39:33

state because I was so tired all

39:35

the time. I couldn't do anything. I

39:37

was just like, I was

39:40

not enjoying any part of my life.

39:42

And now I feel like I've become

39:45

so much happier because I

39:47

don't want to just give it on, like say

39:49

it was just the medication because it wasn't. And

39:52

I feel like a lot of people look at my

39:54

content now and are like, oh, well she only lost

39:56

weight because of the ozone pick. And like, I'll get

39:58

comments that like, ozone pick, or ozone pick is ozone

40:00

picking. or things like that, I'll get comments like that.

40:02

I'll totally give it its flowers. Like it changed my

40:04

life, but I feel like a lot of people just

40:06

look at me and are like, oh, she lost weight

40:08

because she got on ozempic, that's it. But it was

40:10

like, no, I lost weight because A, I

40:12

have implemented a lot of different changes into

40:15

my life. I found a really healthy balance

40:17

of things in my life. Like I still

40:19

love food. I love, I will always love

40:21

eating like fun foods and fried foods and

40:23

all those sorts of things. And I'll do

40:25

a lot of it on camera, but off

40:27

camera and on camera still. I still am

40:29

like finding balance and eating healthy things and

40:32

finding a good balance between the two because

40:34

I have slipped into a lifestyle

40:37

in the past where I was not eating enough

40:40

and I was working out way too much. And

40:42

I thought that was the only way that I

40:44

could quote unquote take care of myself. And I

40:46

didn't realize the harm that I was causing. Now

40:48

I feel like I've found medication that has helped

40:51

me and healed my body. Like that's the way

40:53

that I like to look at it more than

40:55

like, I'm not taking ozempic and not eating and

40:57

starving myself and relying on

40:59

that and abusing it. I'm taking it to

41:02

help me heal the things in my body

41:04

that needed to be healed with

41:06

also working out regularly, with

41:09

also going outside, with also

41:11

eating better, but I still

41:13

am eating foods that

41:15

might not be the quote unquote healthiest, but like

41:17

I found a good balance between the two. I'm

41:19

not working out every single day. I work out

41:21

when I wanna work out. If I'm really sore,

41:24

I take the day off instead of like trying

41:26

to push my body too much. I feel like

41:28

someone could definitely look at me and be like,

41:30

oh, she's just doing it to lose weight, which

41:32

like is not it at all. But if people

41:34

wanna think that they can think that, all I

41:36

know is I have found such a good routine

41:39

and also what I wanted to say with this,

41:41

so sorry, my doctor has really stressed to me

41:43

from the beginning with starting medications like this. A

41:45

lot of people will just do them just to

41:47

lose weight or will not work out or not

41:49

change their lifestyle. And as soon as

41:51

you get off of it, boom, you gain all the

41:54

weight back because you're not actually developing any sort of

41:56

healthy habits. So I've been actively trying to do that.

41:58

She also very much stresses. When you're

42:00

on a medication like this, you need to be hitting

42:02

your protein goals. You need to be eating a lot

42:04

of protein because you also need to be gaining muscle.

42:07

At the same time, you can't just be losing fat. And

42:10

also you need to drink a lot of water. So for

42:12

me, every day, I'm really trying to focus on water, really

42:14

trying to focus on protein and developing

42:17

a healthier lifestyle so that when I

42:19

do eventually get off the medication, I

42:22

have these proper tools in place. Next

42:24

question, girlies, what's your favorite workout at

42:26

the moment? Xbox O, love you both.

42:28

Love you too. Obviously yours is Pilates.

42:30

Yes, been a Pilates girl. So I

42:33

haven't really been working out at all.

42:36

And that's okay. It's actually funny because

42:38

I actually want to start again and

42:40

it's finding that routine with it all. But like even yesterday, I

42:42

just walked on the treadmill because I was like, I just need

42:45

to like sweat. It wasn't to like, I need to lose some

42:47

pounds. It was like, I just need to like move my body

42:49

and sweat and like get it going. I

42:53

also have had a handful of people the

42:55

past few months being like, oh, like you look like

42:57

you've lost weight. And I'm like,

42:59

no, I just like truly stopped weightlifting

43:01

and I gained muscle so quick. I

43:03

know you're the exact same. And

43:07

I think that's another like aspects to,

43:10

even when I was like my fittest and I was like

43:12

so, I had like the lowest body fat percentage and I

43:14

was like super into my like health and fitness. I

43:17

still didn't like how I looked physically. And I

43:19

remember being like, if I'm putting all of this

43:21

effort into like weights and all these things, and

43:23

I'm not trying to be a bodybuilder, like I

43:26

don't need to be in the gym, like

43:28

six times a week, you know what I

43:30

mean? Like and lifting these super heavy weights.

43:32

Cause I was like, no, like I was

43:34

just so muscular and I felt so heavy

43:37

and big because it was all muscle, like

43:39

hardly any body fat. Going back to also

43:41

like, it's okay to like wanna

43:43

like how you look. Like I love when I

43:45

like feel confident in myself. And I remember even

43:47

then being like my lowest body fat percentage, I

43:49

still didn't like how I looked because I felt

43:51

like I looked too like buff basically. And

43:54

again, it's all like personal preference and stuff. I guess what I'm saying

43:56

is it's so interesting how when I like worked out so much and

43:58

now like, I feel like I've taken. and like a handful of steps

44:00

back, like, yeah, I technically have more like body fat, but I kind

44:02

of like how a lot of my clothes fit better too. You know

44:05

what I mean? Like, I think that's the biggest thing. Like, I don't

44:07

even weigh myself. I don't even know how much away. I don't even

44:09

own a scale. Actually, I think I do, but I think it's in

44:11

the garage. I just like stopped weighing myself because it really,

44:14

like numbers don't matter. And on top of it,

44:16

like just go off of how you feel. Like

44:18

I can tell I'm bloated as fuck right now

44:20

because my pants are a little tight, but I

44:23

don't need to be like yelling at myself when I get on a scale.

44:25

And that's just me, like, and some people can get on a scale and

44:27

they don't care what number they see, but like I

44:29

almost am so good at now knowing what I am because

44:31

I just know how I feel. And I'm like, if

44:34

I feel this way, I'm really bloated. I

44:36

need to drink more water and I need it. Like, it's like, it

44:38

doesn't matter what number it is at all.

44:40

Because again, I weighed more when I had more muscle

44:42

too. So it's just like, there's so much

44:44

that goes into it. And I think for

44:46

me personally, I really, I love not having

44:48

a scale. Obviously, if I go to the doctors, they

44:51

can weigh me. I just really, really go off of

44:53

how I feel. And when I feel more confident, I'm

44:55

usually wearing like a cute little crop top or something.

44:57

And if I'm not, then I'm not and it's fine.

44:59

Like it doesn't matter, but I just feel like I'm

45:01

very, I'm very in tune with, I think, how I

45:03

feel in my body. And

45:06

I've realized like, that's okay. And I think I'm more

45:08

happier than ever. Like, if

45:10

I don't feel like wearing shorts, I'm not gonna wear

45:12

them and that's okay. I guess in some degrees, like

45:14

body neutrality or just like some sort of acceptance. I

45:17

do think something that's interesting when you were just talking

45:20

about that, a lot of girls I know or like,

45:22

I see a lot of conversations online of like, I

45:24

don't wanna body, I don't wanna weight lift because I

45:26

don't wanna get bulky. Like that's a big thing people

45:28

talk about. And I do think for a lot of

45:30

people, like that's not something that you should be afraid

45:33

of. But if you feel that way, then like obviously

45:35

that's valid completely just as much as

45:37

it, you know? Going back to genetics, my mom,

45:39

I remember being young and her being like, I

45:41

gain muscle so quick. It's just her body. Like

45:44

if she does like four days of like lifting

45:46

weights, her quads will be so big. Like, and

45:48

I'm just the same way. I remember our old

45:51

trainer once was like, do you know that like

45:53

guys will get calf implants to look like yours?

45:56

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I recently lost 130 pounds and

50:41

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50:43

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50:45

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50:49

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50:51

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50:53

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50:55

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50:57

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50:59

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51:02

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51:05

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51:07

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51:09

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51:11

out of the womb and so

51:14

literally I

51:16

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51:19

always been like that. I've always

51:21

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51:23

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51:25

time I lost a significant amount of weight. All

51:28

of a sudden overnight, I started

51:31

to get really crazy comments about how I

51:33

was a slut and I was a whore

51:35

and all these things. And

51:38

I was just like, but I've always been doing

51:40

the splits, but I've always been like really obnoxious. So I was

51:42

like, I know that like this isn't different.

51:44

Like nothing changed. What happened? Well, I

51:46

remember you would have multiple

51:49

conversations with me separately with Ollie separately with

51:51

both of us. And you were always so

51:53

confused. And I remember

51:56

sitting down me like, Ram, like I

51:58

could be wrong. Let

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me say that, but I'm pretty sure I'm not. I

52:03

was like, but I really feel like people felt

52:05

close to you because you were one

52:07

of the only like bigger

52:09

influencers, especially with like next to a whole bunch of

52:11

people who are like super, super tiny and petite. And

52:13

now you losing weight makes them feel bad about themselves

52:16

and they're just like projecting and they're just being mean

52:18

to you. Like before you were, it was funny when

52:20

you twerked on a wall and now you lost weight

52:22

and suddenly you're a slut, like the only common denominator

52:24

here. And I know for a fact you haven't changed

52:27

because I've been friends with you before and after and

52:29

it like, it's them insecurity. Like you haven't

52:31

changed. You haven't randomly just become this like

52:33

self-absorbed slut who like, which like that's

52:36

a whole other thing in itself. Just like

52:38

the term. Be a slut if you want.

52:40

Be a self-absorbed slut girl. Slut in the

52:42

splits. Do whatever you want to do. Like

52:44

truly, I appreciate that. I remember just being

52:46

really confused and I actually made a video

52:48

about it. I did my own little Nikocado

52:50

Avocado social experiment where I took a photo.

52:53

Yeah, we need to talk about that. But

52:55

I did a, I posed in a certain

52:57

like kind of risque pose. There was a

52:59

girl, one of the like Insta baddies that

53:01

I followed had posted this photo of her

53:03

in a bikini, like in this really like

53:05

hot pose. And I was like looking through

53:07

all her comments and they were just like

53:10

so nice. Like, oh my God, you're so hot. Love you, love you, love you,

53:12

love you, love you. And I was like, oh, I wonder, I already

53:15

know. If I pose in the same

53:17

way, poor, poor, poor, poor.

53:20

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53:22

we literally redid the exact photo. I had one

53:24

phone in hand with the girl posing and my

53:27

other phone taking, I was like, okay, chin

53:29

down to the right, your pose ring. We took

53:31

a photo and I posted and I was just

53:33

so curious, like what is the reaction gonna be?

53:36

Exactly what I thought, poor, poor, blah, blah, blah. I

53:38

mean, I used to love you and now I know.

53:40

Yeah, I used to love you, you changed. You're like,

53:43

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53:45

before OnlyFans, but like, you know, telling me all these

53:47

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53:49

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53:51

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53:54

old content that I used to do. And like in

53:56

that moment, if I was gonna go

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in that way It's

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LA, let me know. Facebook Marketplace. Okay, last

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question for our Q&A. I always feel guilty

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after I eat, quote unquote, unhealthy foods. How

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can I fix this mindset? Ooh,

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one, oh my God. Actually, I feel

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like I have a few answers. One

1:06:17

is obviously like, don't punish yourself,

1:06:19

don't feel guilty. Instead of

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thinking every day is a fresh

1:06:24

start, realize that every meal

1:06:26

is a fresh start because that used to happen

1:06:28

to me where I'd be like, fuck, I already

1:06:30

messed up my breakfast. Today's a waste. I'll

1:06:33

just eat whatever I want and start tomorrow. That's

1:06:35

actually not how it works. What? You

1:06:39

heard it here first. I remember hearing advice of like, every

1:06:42

meal is a good time for you to

1:06:44

restart and like get back into it. And

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like, even if I sleep in late, I'm like, oh,

1:06:49

my day's gone, it's ruined. Like I can't be productive

1:06:51

today. I guess I'll start tomorrow. It's like, no, like

1:06:54

every meal can be a new time. Like, you know what? I

1:06:57

didn't mean to have those waffles for breakfast, but they

1:06:59

snuck their way into my mouth. How dare they? But

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you know what? For lunch, I'll get back on track.

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Like it doesn't have to be an all like day

1:07:05

or like next week or whatever. Like it's literally just,

1:07:07

okay. Cake pop fell into my mouth

1:07:10

when I tripped. That was crazy how that happened.

1:07:12

How the hell did that happen? Twice in one

1:07:14

week. But you know what? We're gonna

1:07:16

get back on it for lunch. Like fresh start, it's okay.

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So that's one thing that really helped me. Another

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one when it comes to like having

1:07:23

fun, like we were just in Vegas,

1:07:25

as they know. Another thing that's helped

1:07:27

is especially vacation. I'm

1:07:30

on vacation, who cares? But especially when you do travel a

1:07:32

lot, you're like, oh, I'm always on vacation. You know what

1:07:34

I mean? Like I don't, I want to like have fun,

1:07:36

but I also don't want to regress

1:07:39

in all of the progress I've ever made. But

1:07:42

I think having the better

1:07:45

mindset of like, oh my

1:07:47

God, when we were in Vegas a while ago, of like we

1:07:49

had the best day ever and I was like

1:07:51

drinking my massive Froze and I was like, this

1:07:53

is so much sugar, but like also I'm gonna

1:07:55

look back and this is gonna be one of

1:07:57

my favorite days of my life. Enjoy it. don't

1:08:00

worry about the weight, don't feel guilty. I'm

1:08:03

actively choosing to have this massive Froze

1:08:05

in a champagne bottle. Like

1:08:07

own the fact that I'm willing to. I think sometimes

1:08:09

too, I would easily, those cheat days

1:08:11

or those unhealthy meals would happen and then the next

1:08:13

day I'd be like, oh no, how did I get

1:08:16

here? And it's like, oh, you should be fucking for

1:08:18

real with yourself. You let yourself and that's okay, but

1:08:20

own it. Like it's like, okay, I am currently choosing

1:08:22

to have my Froze and eat my donuts and do

1:08:24

whatever. And I'm gonna enjoy this day with my best

1:08:26

friend because this is what we want to do to

1:08:28

enjoy ourselves. And

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I will get back into my routine later, but more importantly,

1:08:33

I'm gonna look back and like this,

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I don't, I'm not gonna remember the calories I

1:08:37

didn't eat. I'm gonna remember the like the fun

1:08:39

times we had like, and it's

1:08:41

like a once in a lifetime. Like it barely happened. Like

1:08:43

just being gentle with yourself. And especially when it comes to

1:08:46

like your birthday, eat the fucking cake. The

1:08:48

amount of years I'd be like, I don't want

1:08:50

much cake. It's like, yes, but also as someone

1:08:52

who can be like all or nothing and can

1:08:54

struggle more on the binge side versus the not

1:08:56

eating side, like don't eat the whole

1:08:58

cake. Like that's okay, Alicia. You know, like

1:09:00

you're allowed to have a little bit. You can celebrate

1:09:02

your birthday. Or even if you're at friend's birthdays and

1:09:05

it can be hard when like friends all have birthdays

1:09:07

one crazy month and you're like, damn it. Like I'm just

1:09:09

trying to be like healthy and everyone's having parties and I

1:09:11

want to enjoy myself. Like you can enjoy yourself, but like

1:09:14

you don't have to have 10 drinks. You can have a

1:09:16

glass of wine or like two glasses of like moderation. I

1:09:18

think that's like the biggest thing when it comes to like

1:09:20

not feeling guilty is just realizing like, you

1:09:22

know what, or another thing that's helped too is

1:09:24

like, if I know I'm having a friend's birthday,

1:09:27

then that the rest of the

1:09:29

day, don't get me wrong. I'm still gonna

1:09:31

eat, okay? Because it's not gonna not eat for like a

1:09:33

meal like that, but I'm gonna be aware, ooh, we're going

1:09:36

out. We're probably gonna have great desserts. You know what, I'm

1:09:38

gonna be, I'm gonna- Mindful.

1:09:40

Be mindful of what I'm eating throughout the day.

1:09:42

Like, yes, maybe I want French toast

1:09:44

for breakfast, but you know what? I

1:09:47

know I'm gonna have fucking cake tonight and it's gonna be so

1:09:49

good. And like, just like be a, I

1:09:51

think for me personally, being very all or nothing, I think

1:09:54

that's helped me a lot of like looking forward

1:09:56

to those dinners of like, my

1:09:59

favorite mochi donuts. They're like something like that. And then

1:10:01

that helps me have motivation to want to eat cleaner

1:10:03

too. And I think like, then I don't feel as

1:10:05

guilty when I do have those meals. Because

1:10:09

you shouldn't feel guilty. Food is so

1:10:11

fucking fun. I love food. I love

1:10:13

food. But it's also like,

1:10:15

it's okay to pick and choose your

1:10:17

battles, you know? For sure. I

1:10:19

feel like a lot of people, this is something

1:10:22

I've struggled with a lot. And I think this

1:10:24

is just diet culture being ingrained in us since

1:10:26

we were young. But I know a lot of

1:10:28

people like to not distinguish food is like unhealthy

1:10:30

or quote unquote healthy. And

1:10:32

that's something I'm not actively

1:10:35

trying to unlearn because I do think it's

1:10:37

just like in my head, I do think

1:10:39

very like literally,

1:10:42

like a big

1:10:44

large bucket of fries is not going

1:10:46

to nourish or give me

1:10:49

as much energy. Or just flat out be

1:10:51

as healthy for me as a bucket

1:10:53

of apples or a bucket of lettuce or whatever

1:10:55

it is. You know what I mean? I

1:10:58

do struggle with that if I'm just being honest. Oh, like that

1:11:00

mentality. Yeah, because I know a lot of people are like, food

1:11:02

should have no- Associations. Yes, which

1:11:04

I totally agree and understand. I just

1:11:06

don't know if I'll personally ever get

1:11:08

there. I also personally don't agree

1:11:10

with that simply because I like to go off

1:11:13

of how I feel, speaking of no scale, and

1:11:15

I liked how I feel. If

1:11:17

I eat three bags of

1:11:19

candy, I feel sick. So

1:11:21

I go off of like, how do I feel? As much

1:11:24

as I fucking love my in and out and I will

1:11:26

have my cheese fries, now I'll have my shake. You

1:11:29

saw me that one time. I get so bloated.

1:11:31

My sodium, I don't know what, my face gets

1:11:33

physically bloated and I hurt, but it's so good

1:11:35

and I'm going to eat it. So it's like,

1:11:37

I don't feel as good from

1:11:39

that as I would from like a

1:11:42

well-nourished balanced meal. But

1:11:45

I still am fine eating it and I don't make

1:11:48

myself feel guilty for eating it. I think it's

1:11:50

more of like personal, I don't know. Yeah, no,

1:11:52

I would like, I would love to get to

1:11:54

the point where I don't, I

1:11:56

just see food as food, but unfortunately I think

1:11:58

I'm just, again. and I think it's from diet

1:12:01

culture being ingrained in me. But I will say

1:12:03

for me, with like making

1:12:05

so much food content and doing so

1:12:07

many taste tests and things for TikToks

1:12:09

and things and like, you know, the

1:12:11

viral bulldog

1:12:14

noodles or the candy or the donuts or like

1:12:16

getting so much food and things sent to me,

1:12:19

there was a time in my life where I would have never

1:12:21

eaten it or I would have taken a bite and spit it

1:12:23

out. Like there is a time in

1:12:25

my life where I would have done that and I'm not

1:12:28

doing that again, but I will try the things for camera.

1:12:30

It is work. I'm not gonna eat it all. I'm so

1:12:32

happy when I have everybody on set with me because everybody

1:12:34

gets to eat. The other day I stopped by for lunch

1:12:36

and you were cooking. I was like, are you gonna eat

1:12:39

that? I want that. No, it's so

1:12:41

fun. Like, and I love it. I love getting everyone's

1:12:43

reactions obviously, but it's like, I'm in such a better

1:12:45

place with that now. But then also I'm aware like,

1:12:47

okay, what I film a

1:12:49

lot of times on camera is the, like

1:12:51

unfortunately all the viral stuff is all the

1:12:54

unhealthy stuff or the, you know, the stuff

1:12:56

that's not as nutrient dense or whatever way

1:12:58

you want to think about it. But then

1:13:00

off camera for dinners, I try my best

1:13:03

to eat balanced meals of protein, hitting my

1:13:05

protein goals, having my vegetables, having salads, having,

1:13:08

you know, carbs and like making sure they're well balanced

1:13:10

meals when I can off

1:13:12

camera or still on camera. But just

1:13:14

again, the stuff that goes viral of

1:13:16

course is just all the crazy candy

1:13:18

stuff. Well, and again, going back to

1:13:20

like moderation, cause years

1:13:23

ago when I was still at the apartment and that's one

1:13:25

of the first times I was in like a fitness thing, I

1:13:29

definitely was not having moderation. I would just have

1:13:31

my one cheat meal a week. But if I

1:13:33

was filming like a DIY snacks video, the

1:13:35

way I would think is I would be like, well, if I

1:13:37

already had some, I already fucked up for the day so I'm

1:13:40

just gonna eat the rest all day. Like that was a very

1:13:42

bad way to think of, but that's because I was restricting myself

1:13:44

so much from the candy where now I can be around food

1:13:46

and be like, no, I don't want any because I just don't

1:13:48

want it. And I never thought I'd

1:13:50

even get there. Or I can be like, yeah, I'm gonna have

1:13:52

one or have a bite, not feel guilty. But

1:13:55

the times I felt guilty is when I was

1:13:57

highly restricting myself. So I think like that's a

1:13:59

whole other.